If Only

July 10, 2013 in Business

Have you ever had a problem you just couldn’t change?  You know what I’m talking about; stuff like that extra twenty pounds you just can’t seem to keep off or credit card debt that never goes away or a relationship that makes you feel devastated every time you think of it.

For me it was chronic financial stress.  I was constantly worried and focused on money and having enough just to pay for the basics.  I felt a level of anxiety every time I opened my checkbook. I was caught up in the idea that “if only” I could make a certain amount of income, everything in my life would become easier and I then I could be happy.

  • Making money and financial security became my focus, my idol.
  • Money became  my source for the peace and joy I was seeking.
  • I realized I made money and financial security my source instead of God

An idol is a construct or focus you pour energy into because you believe it is a source for what you want: identity, power, love, money, peace, relationships, etc.

Idols separate you from direct, divine connection to God.

The only way to heal any problem is from knowing your divine source.

Because I am loved, valued and worthy, I can heal.

Problems that don’t heal: money problems, chronic dieting, chronic relationship distress, depression and chronic physical problems are very likely a form of idolatry.  You pour loads of energy and attention into a problem in the hope that solving the problem will make you more worthy, more loved, more acceptable.

All your energy and power is poured into this “problem” that never seems to resolve.  It is like a huge tornado that just spins all your excess effort and energy around in a circle, never really moving forward or changing.

It is an idol when it becomes the source to get you what you really want rather than God as the source.

Forgiveness statements:

  • I forgive myself for idolizing money as my source for all I desire.
  • I forgive myself for idolizing what I have (family, house, etc) as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
  • I forgive myself for idolizing all that I do not have or all that I see others possess as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
  • I give myself permission to tear down this idol to money and I am no longer separated from all the love, value and worthiness I ever wanted.  It’s already mine.
  • I forgive myself for using this idolatry of family as a source to heal depression and fear that I will never get what I really want in my relationships.
  • I give myself permission to tear down this idol,  and I am free to stop pouring excess energy into an empty tornado of futile discussion and thoughts.
  • Without this idol I am no longer separated from God.

Discover the idols in your life with the phrase, “If only. . . .”

  • I had more money. . . .I would be important and valued
  • I had a better body and was prettier. . . . . .others would love me
  • My marriage was perfect. . . .I could love and accept myself
Please post your comments about the idols you have torn down in your life  and how it has made your life better.

Who Gets Cancer?

July 3, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health

Here is some very compelling research describing the personality traits that increase one’s chances for developing cancer.

If you or someone you love have a high number of these traits, you can decrease your chance for developing cancer with EPTworks™ and emotional healing.  By releasing emotional and physical trauma and changing your beliefs, you can increase your assertiveness and ownership of your power to be honest and open about your needs and the practical fulfillment of those needs without the fear or avoidance of conflict.

The most important fact you need to know about cancer: Of all the people who are diagnosed with cancer; the majority survive.

Cancer Personality

The presence of traumas was important in assessing the risk of cancer and the possibility of a poor prognosis.  In his study of 250 patients diagnosed with malignancy, LeShan (1956) noted that a childhood trauma was present in 62% of the cancer patients, and in only 10% of the control group.  He concluded that an early emotional trauma increased the risk of cancer later in life. Such trauma would supposedly lead to an increase in tension towards one or both parents.  Later, LeShan included the presence of a childhood trauma as one of the psychological indicators for predicting cancer development.

Later, LeShan (1977) reconfirmed his initial findings.  He studied the life histories of 500 patients.  One of the typical patterns identified was childhood trauma.  Such trauma included feelings of isolation, neglect, difficult, dangerous or intense interpersonal relationships, parental deprivation and coldness.  He noticed that 76% of the cancer patients showed such patterns in their past, and had also recently experienced an emotional loss.  Traumatic patterns were relived through the recent emotional loss, which influenced cancer growth.

A 1946 Johns Hopkins University study: “Our results appear to agree with findings that cancer patients tend to deny and repress conflictual impulses and emotions to a higher degree than do other people.”

Certain personality features increase the risk of cancer because they are more likely to generate physiological stress.

  • Repression, the inability to say “no”, and a lack of awareness of one’s anger make it much more likely that a person will find herself in situations where her emotions are unexpressed, her needs are ignored and her gentleness exploited.
  • Extremely co-operative
  • Patient
  • Passive
  • Lacking assertiveness
  • Accepting
  • Represses negative emotions especially anger while struggling to maintain a strong, happy façade—denial of negative emotions.
  • The external appearance of a nice or good person
  • A suppression of reactions that may offend others
  • Avoidance of conflict
  • Chronically hopeless and helpless, even though it is not consciously recognized, in the sense that the person basically believes that it is useless to express one’s needs: the needs will not or cannot be met by the environment.

If you know someone who could benefit from this information, please share it.

Take a minute to share how you may have changed these traits in your lifetime and how it has influenced your health and healing.

 

Knowing this will make you a GENIUS healer!

June 27, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

I was on a road trip and happened to be reading Barbara Brennan’s book Light Emerging.  I was reading her chapter on the seven stages of healing.  I had an incredible “aha moment” as I realized this information explained why I could have two different patients with the same symptoms and totally different outcomes.

I may have two patients with right leg pain (sciatica).  One patient responds to my brilliant care in one treatment having no more pain.  I feel like a genius doctor who can fix this problem in anyone but the next patient with this same problem comes in and I can’t get any change or healing to occur.  After learning the seven stages of healing I understood why.

Seven Stages of Healing

  1. Denial:  “There’s nothing wrong with me.”  “It’s normal to have headaches.”  “Everyone has problems like this.”
  2. Anger:  “Why me?”  “This isn’t fair.”  “I don’t deserve this problem.”  “I hate this pain.” “Someone else is to blame.”
  3. Bargain:  “Okay, I’ve been bad and now I need to change so this will stop or go away.”  “I will do what the doctor say as long as I’m guaranteed to get rid of this.”  “I’ll get surgery if it will make it better.”  “I’ll take 100 vitamins and do colonics every day if it will make it better.” “I hate my life so I have to fix it.”
  4. Depression:  “It doesn’t matter what I do, nothing gets better.”  “I’m stuck with this problem.” “It will never go away.”
  5. Acceptance:  “I feel better.”  “Things are getting better.”  “I still have a way to go but I feel hope.” “I love my life so I know it will change.”
  6. Light Emerging:  “Things in my life are changing rapidly.”  “Some days I think nothing has changed but then I see a lot of things have changed.”  “New people are coming into my life.”  “Things in my life are changing rapidly.”  “I feel the meaning of let go, let God.”
  7. Creation of New Life:  “I am solidly placed in a completely new scenario in my life.”  “There are new people and things.” “I am excited at the prospect of learning new ways of being and living my life in this new place.”

So here’s the genius part:  The patient who healed was in “Light Emerging”.  The patient I couldn’t help heal was in “Depression”.  Use muscle testing to determine what stage of healing your client is in with a particular problem.  The ones in “Acceptance”, “Light Emerging” and “Creation of New Life” will get better with very little effort on your part.

For the others, in “Denial”, “Anger”, “Bargain” or “Depression”; use EPTworks™ to quickly reveal and release what it holding them back.  Voila!  You too, can be a genius healer!

Think about a problem you would like to heal and determine what stage of healing you are in with that problem. Your decision to heal will  take you on a road trip to “Creation of New Life”.  Enjoy the journey!

Much gratitude to Barbara Brennan for her great contribution to this work!

I would love to hear how you have used the stages of healing to increase the focus and speed of healing in your life or in helping others.  Please leave a comment below.

Cure ADD/ADHD

June 6, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health, Nutrition

If you knew of a cure for ADD and ADHD that could really change your child for good, would you be interested? I would like to share three simple, inexpensive changes you can make to eliminate or greatly reduce the symptoms of ADD and ADHD.

1)  Eliminate all wheat, cow dairy, and refined sugar from your child’s diet. 

This is easier than ever with so many new grocery stores offering alternatives.  You can replace wheat products with rice products. Linda C’s Kitchen Table and  Elana’s Pantry offers up all manner of wheat and sugar free goodies you can bake to satisfy those yearnings for homemade treats.  Try her brownies or chocolate chip scones; simple to make and amazingly delicious.  Cow dairy can be replaced with almond milk, coconut milk or flax seed milk.  Butter is acceptable.  Goat and sheep cheese can be found in many varieties.  You can use agave syrup, maple syrup or coconut sugar for a sugar alternative. You can do this and it does make a difference.

2)  Use Amber glasses 2-3 hours before bedtime to minimize your child’s exposure to blue light.

We live in a culture with constant noise and unnatural light.  The environmental chaos is bound to have an effect on developing children.  (buy amber glasses here: lowbluelights.com)

Blue-blocking Glasses To Improve Sleep And ADHD Symptoms

ScienceDaily. Retrieved May 9, 2011:

Scientists at John Carroll University, working in its Lighting Innovations Institute, have developed an affordable accessory that appears to reduce the symptoms of ADHD. Their discovery also has also been shown to improve sleep patterns among people who have difficulty falling asleep. The John Carroll researchers have created glasses designed to block blue light, therefore altering a person’s circadian rhythm, which leads to improvement in ADHD symptoms and sleep disorders.

3)  Change a few things in your child’s environment. 

– Fill the child’s environment with your unsolicited, loving, positive, supportive attention.  

In his book, Scattered, Gabor Mate says, “Show me a child who can’t pay attention and I will show you a very sad child.”  He says that environmental factors play a huge part in the development of a child and that children who don’t pay attention have trained themselves to “look away” to avoid hurt or abandonment.  He makes a strong case for the attention deficit child needing “attention” and not getting it and so giving up to look away so as not to feel the loss.  In essence, the attention the ADD/ADHD child is lacking is from the parent.  Your ADD/ADHD child needs your positive loving attention in a consistent manner.  Your child is not deficit in brain chemicals; he is deficit in positive loving attention.  By filling this need in the child, he is more trusting of paying attention.  (Here’s where EPTworks can help the child and the family by releasing the sadness the child is looking away from and helping the family love each other more fully.)

-Enjoy a family meal together at home at the same time each day.

Everyone must sit together and enjoy the meal with healthy family conversation. No tv or devices allowed.  Your child’s brain development is dependent on structure.  Creating one dependable structure in your family routine such as a meal together at the same time each day, will help your child get the positive attention from you he needs and help his brain develop structure of paying attention.

 

 

EPTworks™ is More by Sherry Hamilton

May 16, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

Photo by Jenn Ocken Photography

More that just making a bad feeling go away.

That point in time when you can’t locate that pain you’ve carried and depended on for a point of reference is what I sought after.  For my own pain and now for others who I’ve helped walk through the EPTworks process for 20 years.  There is that definite point in the process when the pain ceases, and there is a relief.

But what comes after the bad feeling or pain is gone? 

               A new identity.

One woman I worked on who had carried a constant headache for over 25 years, said, “I’ll go home a new wife to my husband tonight.” She left in sort of a daze.  I was also amazed and intrigued that she never came to me again after that life-altering experience.  She paid her bill and left.  Emotions and the expression of love is the focus of EPTworks, not just the ceasing of pain.  Lives change when pain ceases.  When your pain has consumed so much attention, but now it’s not there is an odd place for many.

How you change your life in loving others is a completely new place when the pain ceases.  Some just go away because they used their pain to serve an internal need to isolate from intimacy in relationships.  Recognizing the resistance in myself to grow from

helplessness to helper;

self-justification to forgiveness;

limits on pleasure and gratitude to thankfulness in all things

is the greater shift away from pain.  This is more than letting go, but beginning something new and growing into a new experience that glorifies our Creator.  It feels great!  Seeing the process and going toward the points of resistance is important in EPTworks.  It becomes an amazing journey of self-awareness and courage to see that what I thought held me in it’s power no longer does.  Some statements for moving toward resistance to healing pain:

  • I forgive myself for believing I can’t live without this pain.
  • I forgive myself for using this pain as a block to my intimacy with others.
  • I forgive myself for depending on pain to express what I am unable or unwilling to express verbally.
  • I forgive myself for taking on pain as my expression of what I cannot make right for myself or for someone else.
  • I give others permission to forgive me for using my pain to keep me from intimacy with them.
  • I give myself permission to open up to a new feeling of compassion and intimacy with myself and to allow for the beginning of greater love and intimacy in my life and in my relationships.

Guest blogger: Sherry Hamilton

 

 

What Do You Really Do?

May 8, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

“In the last century more amazing things were found out than in any century before.  In this new century hundreds of things still more astounding will be brought to light.  At first, people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then they begin to hope it can be done, then they see it can be done–then it is done and all the world wonders why it was not done centuries ago.”
-Frances Hodgson Burnett from The Secret Garden.

EPTworks is this amazing healing tool that I use to help others and I teach them to help others the same way.  While this amazing tool involves some crazy, unconventional things like magnets, muscle response testing and guided forgiveness—-those things are just the “how” of what I do.

How this magnificent healing takes place is really insignificant to the “why” of what I do.  So it really boils down to this:

I heal broken hearts and I teach others to do the same thing,
SO you can be happier in your life.
SO you can love and accept yourself more.
SO you can feel better and live longer.
SO you can have better relationships.
SO you can make this world a more loving place.

 

 

A Flying Frozen Turkey and Forgiveness

May 3, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

A true-life example of the power of forgiveness made national news in 2005.

Columnist Jay Evensen tells the story:

How would you feel toward a teenager who decided to toss a 20-pound frozen turkey from a speeding car headlong into the windshield of the car you were driving?

How would you feel after enduring six hours of surgery using metal plates and other hardware to piece your face together, and after learning you still face years of therapy before returning to normal–and that you ought to feel lucky you didn’t die or suffer permanent brain damage?

And how would you feel after learning that your assailant and his buddies had the turkey in the first place because they had stolen a credit card and gone on a senseless shopping spree, just for kicks?

This is the kind of hideous crime that propels politicians to office on promises of getting tough on crime. It’s the kind of thing that prompts legislators to climb all over each other in a struggle to be the first to introduce a bill that would add enhanced penalties for the use of frozen fowl in the commission of a crime.

The New York Times quoted the district attorney as saying this is the sort of crime for which victims feel no punishment is harsh enough.  ‘Death doesn’t even satisfy them,’ he said.

Which is what makes what really happened so unusual.  The victim, Victoria Ruvolo, a 44-year-old former manager of a collections agency, was more interested in salvaging the life of her 19-year-old assailant, Ryan Cushing, than in exacting any sort of revenge.  She pestered prosecutors for information about him, his life, how he was raised, etc.  Then she insisted on offering him a plea deal.  Cushing could serve six months in the county jail and be on probation for 5 years if he pleaded guilty to second-degree assault.

Had he been convicted of first-degree assault–the charge most fitting for the crime–he could have served 25 years in prison, finally thrown back into society as a middle-aged man with no skills or prospects.

But this is only half the story.  The rest of it, what happened the day this all played out in court, is the truly remarkable part.

According to an account in the New York Post, Cushing carefully and tentatively made his way to where Ruvolo sat in the courtroom and tearfully whispered an apology. ‘I’m so sorry for what I did to you.’

Rubolo then stood, and the victim and her assailant embraced, weeping.  She stroked his head and patted his back as he sobbed, and witnesses, including a Times reporter heard her say, ‘It’s OK. I just want you to make your life the best it can be.’  According to accounts, hardened prosecutors, and even reporters, were choking back tears.  (Taken from: Jay Evensen, “Forgiveness Has Power to Change Future,” Deseret Morning News, August 21, 2005, p. AA3)

You can read Victoria Ruvolo’s story in her book: No Room for Vengeance: In Justice and Healing

I Don’t Want To Go There

April 22, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

Whatever bad may have happened to you in your life; you can bet you don’t want to go there ever again.

i don't want to go thereHave you ever been asked about a very touchy or hard family situation?  Maybe you came from a family that constantly yelled at each other.  Maybe you have gone through some horrible romantic break-up. Maybe your best friend betrayed you when you were in Junior High.

The truth is you never left “there”.  You are still living “there”.  You are attempting to manage the pain of an old memory by avoiding the memory.

EPTworks is an amazing tool that allows you to:

  1. Let go of the pain of old memories
  2. Relocate yourself into a life you create and love right here, right now.

The next time you have the thought, “I don’t want to go there,” realize you already are “there” and  now it’s time to forgive and let go so you can relocate your life where you want to be.

EPTworks Lifeworks Retreat is an amazing three days that allows you to “go there” and transform your life forever!

Decide NOW EPTworks™ Lifeworks Holistic Healing Escape is what you need in your life!  

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 This is not where you thought you were going.  It’s so much better!

How To Heal After Divorce

April 18, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

 

how to heal after divorce“I hate him and I’m over it!  Unfortunately, I still have to deal with this man because we share children.”

For many, divorce doesn’t make a difficult relationship any easier.

Putting your marriage relationship to death, doesn’t fix the pain, failure and frustration.

Long after the divorce papers are signed, you may carry the emotional scars of being deeply hurt and disappointed by the one you loved, trusted and made babies with.  Like death, with divorce there is a real sense of loss; an emptiness, failure and broken heart.

Three Steps to Heal After Divorce:

1) Let Go

Be willing to let go of what was: all the pain, blame, hurt, guilt, shame, failure and negative    emotions of hatred, anger and frustration. Be willing to let go of what you hoped for: a future of love with this man and your children.

2) Forgive

    Forgive yourself for your vow “till death do us part”
    Forgive him for his vow “till death do us part”
    Ask God to forgive you for your vow “till death do us part”
    Forgive yourself for believing divorce is an unforgivable sin.
    Forgive yourself for everything you may have done to cause this failure.
    Forgive yourself for not being able to hold the family together.
    Forgive yourself for believing your children will never get over the loss of their family.
    Forgive yourself for believing you have to hate him or suffer to justify the divorce.
    Forgive yourself for holding on to a family that doesn’t exist.
    (the family that healed and stayed together)
    Give your ex permission to forgive you for being unable to continue in this marriage.
    Give your ex permission to forgive you for being unable to meet his expectations.

3) Open Your Heart

Without all this hurt and failure, what is now possible for your life? Without this pain and failure, I am free to:

  •       love myself and my children more.
  •       attract more love into my life.
  •       be happier and more confident than I have ever been.
  •       trust love again.

EPTworks is an amazing tool that uses the power of love and forgiveness to allow you to heal after divorce faster than you ever thought possible.  If you are still carrying the pain of a failed marriage in your life; EPTworks can transform that hurt into positive energy that you can use to create more  love in your life right now.

Our EPTworks Guarantee:  If after one session of EPTworks, you do not think we can help you, there is no charge.

Book a private EPTworks session with a certified EPTworks practitioner today.

Why Forgive?

April 11, 2013 in Forgiveness

why forgiveIt is still amazing to me that there are people who seriously ask the question, “Why forgive?”  I suppose you may also ask “Why love?”.  Forgiveness, after all, is an act of love.  There is a deep underlying sadness that prompts the question, “Why love?”.  The deepest hurt in your life usually comes from those you love the most.  It is easy to understand why you would give up on love once you have experienced the pain from being hurt when you are loving someone.  Loving does not carry a promise that allows you to control the outcomes of your relationships.  People you love can still die, leave you or hurt you.  Without forgiveness, you are left with all the pain, loss and anger.  This negative energy takes up space that you could use to create more of what you really love and enjoy in life.  Why forgive?  When you forgive, you let go of all the pain, anger, sadness and loss from your past that you still hold space for in your life.  Forgiveness is a “get out of jail” free card, only you are the prisoner you set free.  Forgiveness opens space in your life for miracles to happen.

EPTworks combines some amazing energy work and intuition to reach the goal of forgiveness and love.  We believe there is no better healing modality than forgiveness and love.  Simply put, forgiveness and love make your health better, your relationships better, your family better and the entire world a better place for everyone.

Miracles happen at EPTworks Lifeworks Retreats!  Come on in. Heal your life. Make the world a better place. See you at the beach in May!

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