3 Statements that Heal Everything (by Paige Cargioli)

January 24, 2014 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

3statments3That’s right, there are only three statements, well, forms of statements that can heal everything. They are 1) I forgive myself (for believing)... 2) I forgive others (whoever that person(s) is in your life that you need to forgive)… and 3) I give others permission to forgive me (when I hurt them the same way I was/am/hurt)… Combining these statements together creates holistic, past, present, and future healing.

Present: I forgive myself…

This might be kind of strange to start with, but forgiving yourself should be the easiest thing you can do (you’re the only person involved here!). However, I say “should” because, well, it’s not always so easy. Forgiving yourself is often the last part of healing anyone ever thinks of, especially if this forgiveness also involves someone else. One of the way EPTworks frames this forgiveness statement is usually with a qualifier, for example, “I forgive myself for believing…”

For example, when something bad happens to me, or I make a mistake, it may cause me to believe something negative about myself that reinforces repetition of the issue. If I believe I am a victim, I may continue to be victimized. If I believe I am unloveable, I will not feel love. If I believe I have no control, I may constantly be looking for places in my life where I can control. Until I forgive myself for believing these negative things about myself, how can I heal from them? How can I get over them? Even if someone else supported the cause of these negative belief patterns, I still have the power to forgive and let go of how I treat myself regardless of how someone else treats me.

Forgiveness of self empowers and helps survivors completely heal. There is often opposition to forgiveness in abusive situations, that is to say, if I forgive, I will continue to be hurt or victimized. Forgiving oneself protects against this, because as soon as I let go of and forgive the belief that I deserve a certain situation, or that it’s my fault, or that I can’t change, I am able to walk away and potentially break the cycle. And all this can happen before even considering the next statement!

Think about what you might believe to keep you in negative patterns, pain, and illness, and forgive yourself for believing it.

Past: I forgive others…

This is what most people think of when they think of forgiveness.

I forgive you.

Well, we know that’s not true based on the first statement. Forgiveness is much more multifaceted, but as annoying as forgiving another person can be, it is also necessary to do in order to heal everything. No man is an island. No one lives in a vacuum. So, there is always someone else to blame for our problems, issues, pain, etc etc etc. Even if I, all myself self, make a mistake, there is so much at work you may not even be aware of that might have caused you to make that “mistake.”

Take, for example, whatever is generationally or genetically (?) at work in a family, and then there is a teenage pregnancy. Usually, the situation is not an isolated event. More often than not, the mother also had a teenage pregnancy, maybe an aunt or a grandmother or a sister… There is always someone else. Same goes for lots of familial patterns. One would think that we would learn from our history… But alas.

In this example, the girl who got pregnant unexpectedly as a teenager may have, first, just believed, based on her familial/generational examples and patterns that this is just what girls do. Then, she may need for forgive whoever (mom, grandma, aunt) for teaching her (not explicitly) to get pregnant as a teenager, and she may need to forgive whoever else was involved at the time of pregnancy, maybe even (generationally) the men that would have been involved.

The list of people and feelings that need to be forgiven can go on and on. EPTworks helps to pin-point the exact time period and people involved that established a negative pattern and forgive the specific issues related to the pattern in order to move on and heal completely.

Other patterns that might exist? Cancer, suicide, abuse, divorce, or addiction… What and who do you have in your life that you know you need to forgive for establishing negative belief patterns in your life?

Future: I give others permission to forgive me…

This is probably the strangest and least intuitive statement, but it really rounds out the process. This statement is tough, because it is essentially saying, “I give other permission to forgive me, when I do the exact same thing to them!”

I hate to admit this to myself, but I do the exact same things to others that I hate. If I believe I am alone or unloveable, then maybe I will push people away, or be a regular downer (making no one want to be around me). I will do things to others that potentially could make them feel unloved or alone. In my negative selfish pattern, I end up doing to others what someone else did to me, and them blame them?! What is wrong with me?

Like forgiving myself is present oriented, forgiving other is past oriented, giving others permission to forgive me is future oriented. I am anticipating that I will make a mistake, and allowing the other person(s) to forgive me for all the times I do (from the time of the originating event until the end of time).

Where in your life might you be doing the exact same thing to someone else that you dislike or do to yourself to keep negative patterns?

There you have it…

Those are three statements that heal everything. Forgiveness crossing time and space, life and death, and all that jazz. Practicing well-rounded forgiveness is exactly what EPTworks is all about. Not just to heal the past, but to launch you into a happier future.

-By Paige Cargioli

(@paigecargioli, asceticpaige.wordpress.com, BetterLifeHealing.com)

WARNING! Two Things That Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life (Part 2)

January 3, 2014 in Business

So you know exactly what you want.

You have mapped out your dream life full of all the experiences you still haven’t enjoyed fully. Well you may be surprised to learn there are only two primary things that can stop you from creating your dream life. In my previous blog, I talked about the first thing. If you missed that one, go back and check it out. The second thing is so normal for you that it has become a part of your life. You just haven’t realized how deadly it is to your reaching the fulfillment of your dreams.

Warning! One More Thing That Will Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life

What makes you “CRAZY” in your closest relationships: There are relationships you are in right now that have the power to distract you by making you “crazy”. It may be your mother or your husband or a friend. Think about what really makes you crazy within the closest relationships in your life. By crazy, I mean situations that really get you churning emotionally. They get you churning so much that you stop focusing on your dream. Once your emotional churning starts, you get caught up in self doubt, disappointment, anger and depression. In that moment you give up your dream for these lower frequency feelings. Then you wonder why your dream is not manifesting. To the degree that you let your relationships churn this kind of “crazy” in your life, you will effectively stop the manifestation of your dream life. You have to be aware when you are drifting into “crazy-land” and gently remind yourself to re-focus on your dreams. Keeping your attention on where you are going and how you will feel when you get there is a key component to manifesting your dream life. Do some EPTworks™ to help you determine exactly what your “crazy” is and release it with forgiveness.

  • I forgive myself for believing I have to go “crazy” when “this” happens in my life.
  • I forgive myself for giving up on my dream when “this” happens in my life
  • I forgive myself for letting this situation stop me from focusing on my dream life.
  • I forgive myself for giving up my dreams because of this situation.
  • I forgive my family for feeling uncomfortable with my dreams.
  • I forgive myself for believing I will lose love if I pursue my dreams
  • I give myself permission to let go of the “crazy” and to keep focusing on my dreams.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to be aware of the “crazy” as a sign that I am closer than ever to achieving my dreams and this “crazy” can’t stop me any more.

Become aware of this pattern of distraction in your life and choose to release it with forgiveness and acceptance.

Get ready to see your dreams come true!

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WARNING! Two Things That Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life (Part 1)

January 3, 2014 in Business

So, you know exactly what you want.

You have mapped out your dream life full of all the experiences you still haven’t enjoyed fully. You may even have a fancy vision board with pictures of all the cool stuff you’ve decided to manifest in your life. This is simple, right? All you have to do is keep your focus on your dream long enough and it will eventually appear.

The reality is you have a drawer full of dreams that you have never manifested and it’s been too long. It’s time to take another look at where you are stuck and exactly what is keeping you from driving to your dream destination in life.

Warning! Here’s the first thing that will stop you from manifesting your dream life:

Fear of rejection or failure:

When someone fails to respond favorably to you, it feels terrible to you. This fear probably started when you were little. Someone you love responded to your request or attention with anger or scorn. It was an awful experience for you and you never want to feel that way again. You want only experiences that keep you from feeling the little kid in you that’s still afraid “I’m not good enough.” In other words, you can only handle the experiences where people are turning flips for you and loving everything you do. You just can’t handle the people who don’t understand you and what you do or flat out don’t like you or what you have to give. You are so afraid of this experience that you unconsciously push people or clients away so you don’t have to go through this terrible experience over and over and over again. By pushing people away, you prevent the manifestation of great love relationships. By pushing clients away, you prevent the manifestation of your dream business. Do some EPTworks™ to discover where the root of this fear of rejection exists and forgive.

  • I forgive myself for believing I just can’t handle the terrible experience of a someone not liking me.
  • I forgive myself for believing I can only feel good with clients who adore me and tell me how great I am.
  • I forgive myself for believing I have to push clients away from me so I can avoid this awful experience of rejection.
  • I forgive my parent for rejecting me.
  • I forgive myself for avoiding love relationships because I can’t handle rejection.
  • I forgive myself for letting my fear of the memory of an awful experience attract terrible life partners.
  • I forgive myself for using my client relationships as a way to take away my fear that I’m still not good enough.
  • I give myself permission to have a mindset to “go to give” from the well of wholeness that exists within me that I also see existing in each of my clients whether they reject me or love me.
  • I forgive myself for letting this deep fear that I’m still not good enough cause me to push people away so I won’t get hurt.
  • I forgive myself for letting this deep fear of this terrible experience (rejection) cause me to give up my power to go for my dream.

In next weeks blog, I will tell you what the second thing is that will stop you from manifesting your dream life.

The Secret to Being a Great Healer

October 9, 2013 in Forgiveness

Don’t you love learning faster, amazing ways of helping someone heal?  The more techniques, tricks and remedies you learn, the more you realize how infinite healing resources are. As you learn more and more, your healing bag becomes full and overflowing with incredible ideas, techniques and remedies to help people get well.

While great techniques can help people heal.  A great technique is not the secret to being a great healer.

The secret to being a great healer is your relationship with God.  Realize that you are not the source that creates healing.  Rather, it is your relationship with your divine source that allows you to  manifest healing at every level.

My favorite prayer to remind myself that God is the healer:

“God I can’t do it. Please do it for me.”

Use this prayer when you are healing others and you will experience even greater joy, peace and deeper understanding of God’s love for you and those you serve.

Cultivate a meaningful relationship with God, through meditation, silence, prayer, praise and worship. Create a discipline to do this on a daily basis as though this relationship matters to you. Drink daily from the well of your divine source.  It is in this divine relationship that you will know the secret to being a great healer.

Share your favorite ways of meeting with God in your life.  I’d love to hear.

Warning New Students Moving at Light Speed!!

October 2, 2013 in Blog, Business, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

By Sherry Hamilton

I want new students of EPTworks™ to realize that when first learning the bulk of information and new skills needed to practice, you may feel like you are going slow, but you really are going at light-speed and you WILL do amazing things even as a beginner.  I remember leaving my first class almost 20 years ago, and feeling very slow at using the techniques– especially compared with Dr. Annette, the inventor of EPTworks™.  Even though she is my sister, I craved her encouragement that I could “do” EPTworks™ and help others in the way she had helped me.  She was confident that as a new practitioner, I could accomplish amazing outcomes.

The week after my first class I had my first paying client.  She was a 16 year old girl referred by a chiropractor.  The girl sat in front of me and told me her problem, “I sit down at the dinner table.  Then I have to go throw up before I can actually eat.  This has been going on daily for about two years.”  She explained how the doctors had been unable to help her control this.  She had been scoped from both ends, and she was feeling very upset.  She had visible scars on her face and arms.  She had been thrown threw a car windshield two years before and had been through several surgeries as well as still having glass coming out of some of her scars.  This car wreck happened the day before she was going to have an interview at a modeling agency.  The wreck changed the course of her life and the scars from the wreck changed any hope for her to be a model.

I had my EPTworks™ manual opened and my flow charts laying on the table beside her as I wrote down her story.  I began to methodically go through the steps one by one that I had learned a week earlier in class:  “Find It.  Fix It.  Forgive It.”  I remember working for one hour and the idea that she believed her whole life had been ruined because of this car wreck.  I had her repeat, “I forgive myself for believing my whole life is ruined because of this wreck and because I missed out on being a model.”  I kept going with EPTworks™.  Finding imbalance in her emotional body, placing the magnets as directed by the body, directing her to breathe, and then stating specific forgiveness.  She came back one more time a week later.  She said that she had only thrown up one time in that week!  This was a huge improvement from her previous experience, and she was much happier and more relaxed.

It has been almost 20 years since I took my first class to learn how to “do” EPTworks™ for myself and for my children. I attained that goal.  Beyond that I have hundreds to thousands of amazing stories where I got to help others in their healing using my skills with EPTworks™.  “Thank-you” to my sister for teaching and encouraging me to keep on practicing and helping others!!  It is an amazing journey.  And now I get to help others learn how to “do” EPTworks™!!  Thanks again Dr. Annette!

EPTworks™ BusinessWorks is a three-day training that helps you with these three steps to uncover the gold that exists in you and your business right now.

  • Sign up to attend and you will get hands on attention to expand your business.
  • Individual sessions with Dr. Annette Cargioli allows you to break through the invisible barriers that are holding you back
  • Individual sessions with Penny Langely allow you to dream a bigger dream and actually see the reality of your dreams coming true before you leave this three days.
  • This is an exclusive event. We limit our training to no more than 10 people.
  • If you are ready and looking for ways to love your business more and take your success to the next level; EPTworks™ BusinessWorks is for you!

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Three Easy Steps to Super-Grow Your Business

September 25, 2013 in Blog, Business, Emotional Healing

1) Love your business like it is your best friend.

This is the number one key to having continual growth in your business.  Think about how you feel about your business when it is disappointing you.  Use forgiveness to help you let go of the anger, frustration, depression, low self esteem, fear or sadness that comes up for you when your business isn’t meeting your expectations.  Stop giving up on loving your business when it is struggling.  Decide to love and believe in your business no matter how it may be performing for you.  Love it because it is a gift from God for your life.  Your business has it’s own unique energy signature that is influenced by the love you give it as well as the love others give it.  The more love that is poured into that energy signature, the more it grows in response to give back to you. Just like you would let your best friend offer return love to you, you must allow your business to function this way too.  You must allow gifts of love and money to flow back to you from your business otherwise you will leave your business with the energy of a debt it owes you for all the love you have given.  That debt you create in your business by refusing to receive back (example: paying yourself) takes up space where new business is blocked from entering in.  When you do receive back from your business, you open space where more people can enter in to expand the love for you and your business.  Once you really get this down, loving your business unconditionally, expansion in the form of love, money and new people occurs automatically.

2) You must feel happy and safe to invite money into your life.

This sounds crazy for most people.  Of course I feel safe with money and I would invite it in. People who have the most difficult time manifesting money in their lives usually have one of three problems:

  1. They push money away
  2. They run from money
  3. They don’t feel self love and value.

Your earliest memories around money go with feelings.  If mom and dad were fighting about money, you could believe that money is “the bad guy” that upset my family or made life harder for you.  For every time you heard someone say, “I can’t afford it.”, you saw money as “the bad guy” that doesn’t allow me to be happy or do what I want.  These strong negative emotions you hold with money memories drive your action or behavior with money.  If you have mastered loving your business and it is flowing naturally with money–you may feel an anxiety or fear because you are running away from money.  Even though you invite money in; when it shows up, the negative feelings force your action to push it away.  People who have very little self love or sense of value in themselves tend to only allow money into their lives that belongs to others.  Check what stage of healing you are in with money.  Give money permission to forgive you for running away or pushing it away.  Admit to money, it’s not “the bad guy”.  Forgive yourself for believing money is the “bad guy”.

Invite it into your life to love and appreciate the gifts that it can give you and others.

3) You must commit 100% to your business.

Besides loving your business, you must be ready to fully commit to what is necessary to support your business in all that it may need from you.  This includes time, money, training and just doing your very best.  When you can’t figure it out–what needs to be done now–be willing to get help.  Consult with an expert.  Take risks to grow in what you don’t know if it means making your business better for you, your family and the world.

EPTworks™ BusinessWorks is a three-day training that helps you with these three steps to uncover the gold that exists in you and your business right now.

  • Sign up to attend and you will get hands on attention to expand your business.
  • Individual sessions with Dr. Annette Cargioli allows you to break through the invisible barriers that are holding you back
  • Individual sessions with Penny Langely allow you to dream a bigger dream and actually see the reality of your dreams coming true before you leave this three days.
  • This is an exclusive event. We limit our training to no more than 10 people.
  • If you are ready and looking for ways to love your business more and take your success to the next level; EPTworks™ BusinessWorks is for you!

Next one is in Destin, Florida November 2-4, 2013. Register here to reserve your space!

How EPTworks™ Healed My Cookie Addiction by Sherry Hamilton

August 28, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Story

A Healing Story

EPTworks is a healing technology applied through the doorway of your emotions.  My sister, Dr. Annette Cargioli DC was developing this foundational system of “Find It-Fix It-Forgive It” in 1994 when she shared her discoveries with me.  She asked me if I had an issue in my life I struggled with and just couldn’t seem to get over.  Monthly I would bake cookies and eat them until I was sick.  I had been doing this for as long as I could remember.  I had tried so many ways to control this behavior, to overcome it, and to ignore it, just to give in, and end up sick in bed waiting for the effects of the binge to pass.  Annette began her work on me using muscle response testing and deductive dialogue to assess an unconscious reason for this self-sabotaging behavior.  She applied some biofield corrections (using magnets) and gave me some forgiveness statements to repeat.  During the 40 minute session, I cried because the issues were highly emotional for me.  At the conclusion of this first session, I felt lighter, and wondered what would happen with my next binge episode.  I didn’t experience a need to binge for 10 months!  I felt free and knew that I wanted more Emotional Polarity Technique!  More work was applied and more aspects of my emotional issues with food came forward till I got over it for good.

Keep Moving Forward by Sherry Hamilton

August 14, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness

Photo by Jenn Ocken Photography

I feel resistance to change strongly and have often described this feeling like trying to shove a square peg into a round hole, it just hurts and gets shaved off on the corners as the ill-fitted peg is forced into the round space.  Changes are forced into compliance in a new life habit.

When you feel resistance to change or to being good to yourself rather than destructive to yourself, then you are right where you need to be. You are at the doorway of challenging and changing your view, and your feelings about what you are doing, and your way of life!!  Keep moving forward with love toward yourself, with gratitude for your freedom to choose and to know what to choose even when you feel resistance toward it– keep doing it.  Find others who are successful in changing from destructive habits to life-giving, get good tools like EPTworks and keep praying and keep trying again and again. You can do it. I believe in you.

Forgiveness for giving up in the face of resistance and remaining powerless to change:

  • I forgive myself for seeing resistance as a wall rather than a doorway for my good.
  • I forgive myself for believing all resistance is bad, unsafe, not allowed and off limits.
  • I forgive myself for believing I can’t feel any different, and this resistance will always be with me.
  • I forgive myself for believing I will never get over my feeling of resistance and feel comfort in this new space.
  • I forgive myself for holding onto powerlessness because of what has changed in my life and what I can never get back.
  • I forgive myself for holding onto sadness and loss to keep myself stuck in resistance to a new life.
  • I forgive myself for believing resistance is more powerful than my choice to love myself and others in my new space.
  • I forgive myself for allowing resistance to keep me from loving myself and serving others with my gifts and talents.
  • I forgive myself for believing there is nothing for me on the other side of this resistance.
  • I forgive myself for deciding I can’t do this and for remaining stuck in resistance.
  • I give others permission to forgive me for using my feeling of resistance as an excuse to let them down.  I forgive others for using their feelings of resistance as a reason to remain distant and disconnected.
  • I forgive myself for believing there is no impasse to my feeling of resistance in this matter.
  • I forgive others for believing the same thing so that we remain isolated from loving communication.
  • I give myself permission to raise my level of acceptance to my resistance to facing my own resistance in any matter in my life.
  • I give myself permission to raise my level of acceptance to my own resistance to loving and communicative relationships in my family, my community, and in each person I meet in this world.
  • I give myself permission to raise my level of acceptance to my own resistance for holding me back from personal growth and achievement.
  • I choose to increase my feelings of gratitude for what resistance teaches me and how resistance challenges me to increase my courage for continued growth and expansion of love and service in my life.

5 Reasons You Hold on to Low Self-Esteem

July 17, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness

By Jenn Ocken Photography.

Low self-esteem is an emotional feeling of holding oneself with disregard to the truth of the real power you hold with your unique talents, gifts and skills. Because low self-esteem is out of balance with truth, it has a negative impact on your ability to create great things in your life.  If you are a person who struggles with this chronic habit of seeing yourself as less than God has made you to be; it’s time to give up the low self-esteem and see yourself for how great you really are.

1)  Shame and fear from previous trauma and abuse:

It builds your story that you somehow caused the abuse or deserved the abuse.  The shame comes from having been a part of a trauma or abuse whether you caused it or not.  Your fear is that if you shine or stand out, you will be hurt again.  Repeat each statement below and take a deep breathe after each one is completed…

  • I forgive myself for believing it was all my fault and I deserved to be hurt.
  • I forgive myself for believing there was something I could have done to stop the abuse.
  • I forgive those who abused me.
  • I forgive myself for holding on to the abuse and low self-esteem.
  • I forgive myself for believing if I shine, I will be hurt again.
  • I forgive myself for believing I had to give up my self love to protect my abuser.
  • I forgive myself for taking the shame of the abuse even though I didn’t cause it.
  • I give myself permission to say yes to this trauma, abuse, fear and low self-esteem and I release it to divine love and gratitude.
  • Without this shame, abuse, fear and low self-esteem, I am free to shine like the sun.

2)  Fear of arrogance:

You are afraid that you will be perceived as arrogant or prideful if you love yourself.  You believe loving yourself is ungodly.

  • I forgive myself for believing it is bad to love myself and be honest about my natural talents and gifts.
  • I forgive myself for believing that loving yourself is ungodly.
  • I forgive myself for believing I will be perceived as arrogant or prideful if I love myself as God loves me.
  • I forgive myself for denying who God made me to be as a show of righteousness.
  • I forgive myself for using low self-esteem as a false humility.
  • I give God permission to forgive me for denying the light he made me to be.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to be honest about who I am and what I am really good at.  I can share the truth of who I am even if I am shining like the sun.

3)  You don’t want to be held responsible:

You are afraid if you believe in yourself and have self-esteem, you will be held responsible for things that go wrong.  By holding on to your low self-esteem, you will avoid taking risks and responsibility.

  • I forgive myself for believing I can’t do anything right.
  • I forgive myself for believing I’m not capable.
  • I forgive myself for using low self-esteem as an excuse to avoid taking risks and responsibility.
  • I forgive myself for believing I must be perfect to take responsibility.
  • I forgive others for blaming me for things that go wrong.
  • I forgive others for shaming me for things that go wrong.
  • I give others permission to forgive me for blaming them for my low self-esteem
  • I give others permission to forgive me for showing up with less than my real God-given talent.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to take action to give back and be responsible without feeling afraid I have to be perfect to deserve love.

4)  It makes people treat you special:

If you feel bad about yourself, people show compassion and feel sorry for you.  They go out of their way to make sure not to say or do the wrong thing around you.

  • I forgive myself for believing, if I am powerful, people will be harder on me.
  • I forgive myself for believing, I can control social situations by feeling bad about myself.
  • I forgive myself for using low self-esteem to control how people treat me special.
  • I forgive myself for believing it is safer for me to have low self-esteem.
  • I forgive myself for identifying that low self-esteem is what makes me unique and loved.
  • I give myself permission to let go of my low self-esteem and to express my true God-given talents to help the world.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to shine like the sun and people still treat me special.

5)  I don’t recognize who I am as a child of God:

You identify with the chronic low self-esteem of your family of origin.  To belong you have to be a loser like the rest of your family.  You don’t realize that God made you to shine like the sun.

  • I forgive myself for believing I have to be a loser to belong and be loved.
  • I forgive myself for believing my family won’t recognize me if I don’t hold low self-esteem.
  • I forgive myself for believing I will be alone if I don’t hold low self-esteem.
  • I forgive myself for not recognizing who I am as a child of God.
  • I forgive myself for rejecting the truth of who God made me to be for the lies of my family.
  • I forgive my family for making low self-esteem the way to belong and be respected and loved.
  • I give my family permission to forgive me for letting go of the low self-esteem and loving who God made me to be.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to recognize who I am was a child of God and I am shining like the sun.

Monk and mystic, Thomas Merton, said it best when he said, “there is no way of telling people that they are all walking around shining like the sun!”

How will your life look without that old low self-esteem?  What more will you be able to give to those you love, your community and the world?  Answer these questions in the comments.  I’d love to see!

If Only

July 10, 2013 in Business

Have you ever had a problem you just couldn’t change?  You know what I’m talking about; stuff like that extra twenty pounds you just can’t seem to keep off or credit card debt that never goes away or a relationship that makes you feel devastated every time you think of it.

For me it was chronic financial stress.  I was constantly worried and focused on money and having enough just to pay for the basics.  I felt a level of anxiety every time I opened my checkbook. I was caught up in the idea that “if only” I could make a certain amount of income, everything in my life would become easier and I then I could be happy.

  • Making money and financial security became my focus, my idol.
  • Money became  my source for the peace and joy I was seeking.
  • I realized I made money and financial security my source instead of God

An idol is a construct or focus you pour energy into because you believe it is a source for what you want: identity, power, love, money, peace, relationships, etc.

Idols separate you from direct, divine connection to God.

The only way to heal any problem is from knowing your divine source.

Because I am loved, valued and worthy, I can heal.

Problems that don’t heal: money problems, chronic dieting, chronic relationship distress, depression and chronic physical problems are very likely a form of idolatry.  You pour loads of energy and attention into a problem in the hope that solving the problem will make you more worthy, more loved, more acceptable.

All your energy and power is poured into this “problem” that never seems to resolve.  It is like a huge tornado that just spins all your excess effort and energy around in a circle, never really moving forward or changing.

It is an idol when it becomes the source to get you what you really want rather than God as the source.

Forgiveness statements:

  • I forgive myself for idolizing money as my source for all I desire.
  • I forgive myself for idolizing what I have (family, house, etc) as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
  • I forgive myself for idolizing all that I do not have or all that I see others possess as the source of my happiness and fulfillment.
  • I give myself permission to tear down this idol to money and I am no longer separated from all the love, value and worthiness I ever wanted.  It’s already mine.
  • I forgive myself for using this idolatry of family as a source to heal depression and fear that I will never get what I really want in my relationships.
  • I give myself permission to tear down this idol,  and I am free to stop pouring excess energy into an empty tornado of futile discussion and thoughts.
  • Without this idol I am no longer separated from God.

Discover the idols in your life with the phrase, “If only. . . .”

  • I had more money. . . .I would be important and valued
  • I had a better body and was prettier. . . . . .others would love me
  • My marriage was perfect. . . .I could love and accept myself
Please post your comments about the idols you have torn down in your life  and how it has made your life better.