3 Crazy Reasons You Over Eat

January 3, 2014 in Health, Nutrition by Annette

Photo by Jenn Ocken

1) To keep from feeling.

You may have experienced this consciously when you had a bad break up and you decide to eat a whole quart of rocky road ice cream. When you fill up on food, you can keep from feeling the anxiety or sadness or anger because all you feel is the uncomfortable feeling of too much food. Once it works for you; then you may unconsciously use excess food to avoid any uncomfortable feelings. After all, you can count on your favorite foods to make you feel good especially when relationships or life situations are making you feel bad. Overeating provides a full feeling that serves as a distraction from feelings of anxiety, abandonment, anger or low self esteem.

I forgive myself for believing that:

  • I have to use food and being full to take away the bad feelings in my life and body.
  • food can take away my hurt and sadness.
  • food is love.
  • I don’t feel anger, I get fat.
  • food is the only good feeling I have in my life.
  • I’d rather feel fat than feel hurt.

I forgive (name):

  • for hurting me.
  • for not loving me.
  • teaching me to use food to soothe my pain.
I give myself permission to let go of this unhealthy pattern with food and to be honest about what I really need.I give myself permission to stop using food to block unpleasant feelings and to ask God to please let me feel.

2) To feel powerful.

People who struggle with losing weight or maintaining their ideal weight, usually don’t think they feel very powerful around food. However, in our rich culture, food is one thing that you have almost unlimited access to. Practically anything you want to eat is within your reach and price range. So when you feel powerless to pay a bill or lose weight or control your child; eating all the food you want, any food you want, whenever you want can make you feel powerful. Here’s how this looks: I can’t pay my mortgage but I can buy and eat an entire bag of BBQ chips. I can’t make my husband treat me with respect but I can bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies and eat them all. No one can stop me. Overeating suspends the reality of your powerlessness in another area of your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • when I feel powerless in my life, eating all the food I want can make me feel powerful.
  • food is my greatest source of power when I can’t do what I want or get what I want.
  • the person who controls the food, is the one with the most power.
  • I forgive myself for using food as a source for power when I can’t do something in my life.
  • I forgive those who have taken ownership of my power.
  • I forgive myself for giving ownership of my power to food.
  • I give myself permission to let go of using food as a source for feeling power over other things I can’t control.
  • I give myself permission to eat everything I want, whenever I want without ever using it again as a source for power.

3) To store up for a future famine.

A famine is when there is no food and consequently, you starve. Your emotional eating may be a compulsive response to a famine experience in your past. It could be your family really didn’t have much food or the food was unreliable. Maybe you didn’t know when or if there would be another meal, so you would overeat to store up in case there was nothing to eat later. Storing up for a future famine isn’t just about famine of food. You could have experienced famine of love or attention or money. These famines could have still caused your starvation for love or attention or money. Constant, compulsive piling up of excess food in your body is your way of preventing the hurt of previous famine to ever happen again. By metaphorically “filling your barn”, you think you can prevent such starvation and hurt from ever happening again in your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • I have to store up with food so I am not caught in a famine again.
  • another famine is coming.
  • I’m going to experience more loss, so I must fill my barn to prevent feeling that loss ever again.
  • I can keep from feeling the loss by pouring my energy into filling my barn with tons of food.
  • I’ll never heal from the famine of food/love/attention/money in my past.
  • There isn’t enough for me.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively overeating just so I won’t be afraid of being without during another famine.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively hoarding food in case there is no food, love, attention or money in the future.
  • I give myself permission to let go of my loss and to accept there is enough for me.
  • I give myself permission to accept there is enough love, enough attention, enough food, enough money for me.
EPTworks™ Lifeworks Holistic Healing Escape is a luxurious 3-day retreat where you can heal the emotional issues related to excess weight, body image, self love, overeating and much more.
The next one is scheduled to take place November 6-8, 2013 in Destin, Florida.

10 Natural Cures For Sick Kids

October 16, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition by Annette


Chronic coughs, runny noses, sore throats, headaches, tummy aches–with five kids, I’ve seen it all.  My youngest is now a senior in high school and I am proud to say, we never had to treat our sick kids with antibiotics or medical intervention.  We have developed a good reputation in our community, providing natural health care to children. While vitamin C and plenty of water are always recommended for infections, I’m giving you 10 more amazing natural cures you can use to help your sick kids.

1)  Apple cider vinegar

This is an amazing cure for strep throat, one of the most common kid sicknesses.  D.C. Jarvis, M.D. documented his research using apple cider vinegar to heal strep throat and other health problems in his book Folk Medicine: a New England Almanac of natural health care from a noted Vermont country doctor.  The minute your child starts complaining of a sore throat, have him drink 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water every couple of hours.  If he can gargle and swallow, it will minimize the pain of the sore throat.  Dr. Jarvis claimed to be able to change a positive strep culture to negative in 24 hours or less using apple cider vinegar.

2)  Colloidal silver

You can pick this up at any health food store.  It is a tasteless liquid that can be used to prevent sickness as well as helping the body heal from sickness.  It is safe for babies and small children.  It can be used directly in the ear with a drop of olive oil for ear infections.  It is very effective in resolving the pain, infection and inflammation of pink eye or any eye problem.  It is safe and soothing to drop into the eye to aid with infections.  Skin infections also respond very well with colloidal silver.

3)  Eliminate dairy

This won’t cost you anything.  Just in case you didn’t know, kids with chronic ear/nose/throat infections are usually sensitive to dairy.  I’ve seen so many chronically sick kids get well and stay well by simply eliminating all dairy.  You can substitute milk these days with almond milk, coconut milk, or rice milk.

4)  Probiotics

These are the good little bacterial army of scavengers that love to eat all the “dead stuff” your immune system went after. That dead stuff becomes excess mucous for your body to unload.  You can find probiotics at any store that carries supplements; even your local Walgreens.  This supplement will clean up the “mess” of getting over an infection and help the colon stay healthy, too.

5)  Gently rub temples for 30-60 seconds

A fever is the bodies way of killing the bacterial or viral invaders. A fever is your child’s immune system doing it’s job to protect your child.  Dr. Robert Mendelsohn, acclaimed pediatrician and author gives solid advice on when it is advisable to lower a child’s fever.  We learned that you can give your child a 15-20 minute break from a fever by gently rubbing her temples for 30-60 seconds.  This gives the child a short break from the fever without interfering with her immune systems natural defense mechanism.

6)  Peppermint oil

With colds and fever often come headaches.  Use peppermint oil on the temples, forehead, under the nose and a little on the tongue to alleviate the pain of headaches. (be careful to avoid getting it in the eyes as it will sting)  You can also rub peppermint oil on the tummy for tummy aches.

7)  Fenugreek tea

Fenugreek tea is an amazing helper when it comes to excess mucous from sinus, throat and lung infections.  You can buy it in tincture form or tea bag form.  Drink three cups of fenugreek tea per day to relieve the sinus and lymphatic congestion.

8)  Kali Sulph 6x

This is a micro-nutrient known as a cell salt.  Kali sulph is fantastic for eliminating that last bit of croupie cough your child carries around.  It is also good to give for the basic common cold. Take 3-6 three times per day until symptoms are gone.  These are tiny supplements that are dissolved under the tongue.

9)  Kali Phos 6x

Another cell salt, Kali phos is an ancient remedy for those who feel as though they are “falling apart”.  Children who are fretful with chronic headaches or stomach aches can usually benefit from Kali Phos.  It provides micro nutrition to the nervous system to support it in helping the child feel stronger and more able to cope with the stress of life.  A child can take 6 three times a day and as needed for nervousness that causes anxiety and stomach upset.

10) Get regular spinal adjustments

Chiropractic care is about maintaining your structure to positively influence your function.  It’s not just about back pain, but an overall holistic approach to body health.  When your body structure is aligned, your body function is improved.  Chronically sick kids who get adjusted regularly, always get well faster and stay well longer.

If you know some dynamite natural health cures for kids; share them below in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!

Sugar Regulation

June 12, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition by Annette

If you have any of the following problems, you can benefit from a sugar regulation diet:

  • anxiety
  • depression
  • chronic mental instability
  • mental fragility
  • mental fogginess
  • OCD
  • mental and physical fatigue
  • chronic weight gain
  • inability to lose weight and keep it off
  • chronic anger/irritability

You can improve your condition in as little as 30 days with very little cost and change in your lifestyle.

1) Eliminate wheat—all wheat, that includes pasta, bread, cereals, crackers, cookies. Wheat is notorious for causing sugar dysregulation, so no wheat for you.

2) Eat 60-75 grams of useable protein per day.  If your current protein resources were useable, you wouldn’t have this sugar regulation problem.  You must put this useable protein in your breakfast and every snack. If you have a meal with very little protein, you may want to add 10-20 grams of useable protein.  I recommend: Sun Warrior raw fermented brown rice protein powder.  You can get it on Amazon.  Start your day with two scoops=32 grams. You can use this for snacks or supplemental meal protein as well.  Just use a shaker cup, add water and protein, shake and drink.  If you are tolerant of dairy, greek yogurt makes a great snack or dessert with 14 grams of useable protein.  On the go, you can take Think Thin bars which provide 20 grams of useable protein, or use a half one as a dessert to supplement your meal.

3) Eat three smaller meals and two protein snacks each day.  Breakfast–midmorning snack–Lunch–midafternoon snack–Dinner.  Set your iPhone alarm to remind you to eat your protein snacks.

4) Don’t overeat.  You know that last bite that leaves you feeling, “I shouldn’t have eaten that last bite”.  Stop eating before you eat the bite that puts you over your limit of feeling good.  Overeating will also drive you into sugar dysregulation.  Once it goes out of balance, it can take 12-24 hours to get it into a healthy balance again.  You will get the hang of it sooner than you think. (signs of dysregulation: sleepy, fatigued, lost motivation, moody, foggy thinking, irritable, craving sugar, anxiety, depression. . .you get the picture)

5) Discipline.  Yes, I said that ugly little word that no one really wants to hear.  Listen, discipline is one side of a coin, and the other side is freedom. When the freedom you give yourself lacks discipline, you risk losing the freedom you want the most; the freedom to feel good, live longer, be happy and think more clearly. You have to give up ways that aren’t working for you.  Discipline yourself with these simple new habits and expand your awareness of the freedom to be healthier, happier and more fulfilled.  It doesn’t take a prescription,wonder supplement or a ton of money; just your decision to live your life in a better way.

*a supplement that can support you while you are developing this new habit is “inositol powder”.  It tastes like sugar.  Eat 1 tsp three times a day while you are learning to balance your body’s sugar regulation.  Some folks find it helpful to continue taking a half dose while others continue with higher doses.  Your diet management is the key to not needing this supplement support.


June 6, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health, Nutrition by Annette

If you knew of a cure for ADD and ADHD that could really change your child for good, would you be interested? I would like to share three simple, inexpensive changes you can make to eliminate or greatly reduce the symptoms of ADD and ADHD.

1)  Eliminate all wheat, cow dairy, and refined sugar from your child’s diet. 

This is easier than ever with so many new grocery stores offering alternatives.  You can replace wheat products with rice products. Linda C’s Kitchen Table and  Elana’s Pantry offers up all manner of wheat and sugar free goodies you can bake to satisfy those yearnings for homemade treats.  Try her brownies or chocolate chip scones; simple to make and amazingly delicious.  Cow dairy can be replaced with almond milk, coconut milk or flax seed milk.  Butter is acceptable.  Goat and sheep cheese can be found in many varieties.  You can use agave syrup, maple syrup or coconut sugar for a sugar alternative. You can do this and it does make a difference.

2)  Use Amber glasses 2-3 hours before bedtime to minimize your child’s exposure to blue light.

We live in a culture with constant noise and unnatural light.  The environmental chaos is bound to have an effect on developing children.  (buy amber glasses here: lowbluelights.com)

Blue-blocking Glasses To Improve Sleep And ADHD Symptoms

ScienceDaily. Retrieved May 9, 2011:

Scientists at John Carroll University, working in its Lighting Innovations Institute, have developed an affordable accessory that appears to reduce the symptoms of ADHD. Their discovery also has also been shown to improve sleep patterns among people who have difficulty falling asleep. The John Carroll researchers have created glasses designed to block blue light, therefore altering a person’s circadian rhythm, which leads to improvement in ADHD symptoms and sleep disorders.

3)  Change a few things in your child’s environment. 

– Fill the child’s environment with your unsolicited, loving, positive, supportive attention.  

In his book, Scattered, Gabor Mate says, “Show me a child who can’t pay attention and I will show you a very sad child.”  He says that environmental factors play a huge part in the development of a child and that children who don’t pay attention have trained themselves to “look away” to avoid hurt or abandonment.  He makes a strong case for the attention deficit child needing “attention” and not getting it and so giving up to look away so as not to feel the loss.  In essence, the attention the ADD/ADHD child is lacking is from the parent.  Your ADD/ADHD child needs your positive loving attention in a consistent manner.  Your child is not deficit in brain chemicals; he is deficit in positive loving attention.  By filling this need in the child, he is more trusting of paying attention.  (Here’s where EPTworks can help the child and the family by releasing the sadness the child is looking away from and helping the family love each other more fully.)

-Enjoy a family meal together at home at the same time each day.

Everyone must sit together and enjoy the meal with healthy family conversation. No tv or devices allowed.  Your child’s brain development is dependent on structure.  Creating one dependable structure in your family routine such as a meal together at the same time each day, will help your child get the positive attention from you he needs and help his brain develop structure of paying attention.



The Place Where Bad Habit Goes FOREVER and Good Habit Stays FOREVER by Sherry Hamilton

March 15, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness, Health, Nutrition by Annette


by Jenn Ocken Photography

This week I had the pleasure, yes pleasure, to sit through a six hour lecture presented by Bill M. Kelley, Ph.D., from Dartmouth College.  I’ll spare you his titles, but the lecture was about the brain and habits.  How habits are formed, and why changing bad habits into good habits is hard for most people and near impossible for some people.  It really does require more than willpower, and knowing what is happening inside your gray matter can help ease the process.

Dr. Kelley showed that the brain is really good at short-cutting information to speed up your process to get something done.  We were given the simple task to see a word and tell what color the word was printed in.  The first word was “red” and it was printed in red.  Oh, so easy!  All 300 of us proclaimed “red.”  Then we had the word “blue” in blue.  We see the word and tell the color: “blue.”  Then with green we are forming a habit of seeing the word and telling its color.  After a couple of reds, blues and greens Dr. Kelley flashes a slide that is the word “green” printed in the color blue.  One third of the room proclaimed “green” the other two thirds were choking back the word and searching for the correct answer of “blue.”  That pause and need to stop and think about what I’m seeing and what information I’m supposed to be giving was a quick way to show that there is hesitation when something changes and upsets your habit.  The shortcut your brain set up for you didn’t work on every solution, and you paused to figure out your conflict and eventually come up with the solution.    When you want to change that habit, there is a pause. 

This pause is where you consciously have to stop and choose your action for the new outcome you are wanting. 

  1. Your Mind-Body is Smart and Efficient

Your mind-body sets up a habit and speeds up the processing like driving a race car on a super highway.  The more you do the same action, the more efficient you get at doing it.  You think you are driving that race car, but there is a chemical called dopamine who you gave the car keys to.  Dopamine is driving you to “do it again” and you are just along for the ride.  Sometimes you are blindfolded and gagged to represent your feeling of helplessness when you make choices and give into your bad or self-destructive habits.

  1. Your Mind-Body is Super-Duper Efficient

Not only does your mind-body set up your habits on familiar super highways, but your mind-body also keeps track of all the details leading up to your action, and sets them up as habits on super highways in your mind-body too!

  1. Key to Changing Out a Bad Habit for a Good Habit Requires Conscious Effort– Pause, Expend New Effort

Establishing a life-long good habit requires getting your body to agree it is a habit and to build for you a super highway bigger and better than the super highway you have up in your gray matter for your bad habit.  Really that’s all there is to it!  Being aware of what you are doing here is one of the keys to building a successful good habit super highway in your brain and body system.

  1. Make Your Choice More Attractive for Getting Your Greatest Reward:  Love

In EPTworks, making the good habit super highway bigger and better so the mind-body will choose it is based on attaching the positive emotional charge of true love to the new good habit. The Biblical truth that love is the greatest single power source we have access to is mankind’s greatest reward.  When my new good habit is rewarded with the best emotions and aspects of true love, then I will be drawn to choose that habit more often than my self-destructive habit. 

  1. EPTworks Therapy Makes the Bad Habit Super Highway Less Attractive Using:  Forgiveness

            Forgiving myself for believing what isn’t true about this bad habit makes it less attractive to me.

In letting go of a bad habit, there are usually reasons why we want to keep doing it.  EPTworks seeks out the long held beliefs that are giving value to your bad habit and making you want to “do it again”.  Using specific forgiveness for beliefs that aren’t true will neutralize the beliefs and allow the mind to resolve each conflict attached to the bad habit.  Using this therapy makes the bad habit super highway look even less attractive and easier to switch over to the new good habit super highway we are building bigger and better.

By guest blogger: Sherry Hamilton



Riding On the Gerbil Wheel of Destructive Habits by Sherry Hamilton

March 13, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health, Nutrition by Annette


by Jenn Ocken Photography

(cue sound effects:  eee…ee..eee…ee… a squeaky wheel)

I Can’t Help It!!!  I Have To Do That.  I Did It Again!  I Can’t Live Without That.

  1. Consciously admit what is bad for you or bad for your future: Monthly binge on chocolate chip cookies to point of illness.
  2. Decide to take a different action for a better future: Stop binging on cookies.  Do something else with this time.
  3. Binge on chocolate chip cookies. Feel like a failure for not maintaining decision to not binge on chocolate chip cookies.
  4. Make a new plan with more specific aversion techniques so as to succeed next month: Binge on cookies; feel like a helpless failure and guilty for not following through with plan.
  5. Give up on better future: Give into binging.  Live with feeling of failure. Binge on cookies.  Feeling powerless.  No guilt because I’ve decided: I can’t help it.

About 25 years ago, I realized I had a self-destructive habit of binging on chocolate chip cookies once a month.  I recognized it was self-destructive because I would bake cookies and eat more than a dozen until I was sick and in pain.  I followed the above plan month after month for more than a decade with continued frustration.  I call it a ‘gerbil wheel’ because I went around and around with my inner conflict and my outer display for this nagging monthly dependence on chocolate chip cookies.

My sister, Dr. Annette Cargioli, DC, helped me make the first step in breaking this awful cycle of dependence while she was pioneering EPTworks.  After one 45 minute session, I didn’t binge or have the need to binge for 10 months!  It was freeing and odd at the same time.  I was waiting for the powerless need to drive me to the binge cycle and it didn’t come.  Then after 10 months it did come back.  I called her, and told her the magic stopped and I had a binge.  She explained there are triggers and aspects of this cycle.  The great news was we had effectively stopped the cycle once so we could probably keep interrupting the behavior with continued work.  She was right.  It was a process of a few more years of work with paying attention to what set me off or triggered me into the binge behavior.  I can say that I’m binge-free now, and much happier too. 

I say Annette saved my life because the mental and physical toll of the behavior was making my future good health and peace unattainable.


by Jenn Ocken Photography

by Guest Blogger: Sherry Hamilton



Tips to Maintain Ideal Weight

January 25, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition by Annette

It’s the new year and everyone is hoping to lose the extra five or ten pounds from the holiday season.  As a holistic doctor, I have learned some awesome tricks to maintain your ideal weight.

The most important foods to eliminate are wheat, refined sugar and cow dairy (butter is allowed)  Most people with weight control problems are allergic or have sensitivity to these foods, but notice, this is a very short list to eliminate.  If eliminating these foods is challenging for you, it may be because these are the main foods you consume. Eliminating these three foods will do wonders in helping you to lose weight.  Minimizing these foods will help you to maintain weight.  With that said, rather than focusing on the foods and habits you must eliminate, turn your attention on the foods you enjoy that will support your healthy weight maintenance.  Choose real food such as fresh fruit, vegetables, eggs, honey, nuts, brown rice, nut butters, lean grilled meat.  Choose to drink mostly water if possible.

Adequate protein and good fats can virtually eliminate your unhealthy cravings.  I recommend Sun Warrior Raw Vegan Protein powder.  It is the ultimate raw superfood protein made from bio-fermented raw sprouted whole grain brown rice protein with a complete amino-acid profile for 98.2% assimilation.  It is non-GMO and hypo-allergenic.  The best part is that it is a very pleasant tasting protein powder you can mix in a shaker cup with water.

A great way to add good fats is recommended by the Bullet-Proof Executive. He recommends butter coffee (i.e. Bulletproof Coffee).  Using a blender, you blend one cup of coffee with one tablespoon unsalted grass-fed cow butter and one tablespoon coconut oil. It’s healthy and delicious. He also has a great full fat Ice Cream recipe that my daughter LOVES.

For exercise, I recommend The Slow-Burn Fitness Revolution. It’s a thirty minute workout that you do once a week. For those of us who don’t love to workout, it’s the perfect solution for body maintenance.

Finally, my favorite tip for maintaining ideal weight is the far infrared sauna.  You can purchase one for your home for about $1200 from Costco. By using your sauna for thirty minutes each day, you will effectively do a cardiovascular workout and burn 600-800 calories just relaxing in your sauna. An additional benefit is that you will also be releasing environmental toxins from your body through your skin as you sweat in the sauna.  With consistent use of your sauna, you will increase your bodies efficiency through detoxification and you will support weight loss by burning calories.

By incorporating even just a few of these tips into your routine, you’ll feel great and maintain your weight.