8 Clear Signs Of An Abuser That Isn’t Changing

January 3, 2014 in Abuse, Health by Annette

  1. He says he can change only if you change too.
  2. He says he can change only if you “help” him change, by giving him emotional support, reassurance, and forgiveness, and by spending a lot of time with him. This often means that he wants you to abandon any plans you had to take a break from seeing him.
  3. He criticizes you for not realizing how much he has changed.
  4. He criticizes you for not trusting that his change will last.
  5. He criticizes you for considering him capable of behaving abusively even though he in fact has done so in the past (or has threatened to) as if you should know that he “would never do something like that” even though he has.
  6. He reminds you about the bad things he would have done in the past but isn’t doing anymore, which amounts to a subtle threat.
  7. He tells you that you are taking too long to make up your mind, that he can’t “wait forever” as a way to pressure you not to take the time you need to collect yourself and to assess how much he’s really willing to change.
  8. He says, “I’m changing. I’m changing,” but you don’t feel it.*

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*With respect and much gratitude, most of this information is taken from the book, Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

3 Crazy Reasons You Over Eat

January 3, 2014 in Health, Nutrition by Annette

Photo by Jenn Ocken

1) To keep from feeling.

You may have experienced this consciously when you had a bad break up and you decide to eat a whole quart of rocky road ice cream. When you fill up on food, you can keep from feeling the anxiety or sadness or anger because all you feel is the uncomfortable feeling of too much food. Once it works for you; then you may unconsciously use excess food to avoid any uncomfortable feelings. After all, you can count on your favorite foods to make you feel good especially when relationships or life situations are making you feel bad. Overeating provides a full feeling that serves as a distraction from feelings of anxiety, abandonment, anger or low self esteem.

I forgive myself for believing that:

  • I have to use food and being full to take away the bad feelings in my life and body.
  • food can take away my hurt and sadness.
  • food is love.
  • I don’t feel anger, I get fat.
  • food is the only good feeling I have in my life.
  • I’d rather feel fat than feel hurt.

I forgive (name):

  • for hurting me.
  • for not loving me.
  • teaching me to use food to soothe my pain.
I give myself permission to let go of this unhealthy pattern with food and to be honest about what I really need.I give myself permission to stop using food to block unpleasant feelings and to ask God to please let me feel.

2) To feel powerful.

People who struggle with losing weight or maintaining their ideal weight, usually don’t think they feel very powerful around food. However, in our rich culture, food is one thing that you have almost unlimited access to. Practically anything you want to eat is within your reach and price range. So when you feel powerless to pay a bill or lose weight or control your child; eating all the food you want, any food you want, whenever you want can make you feel powerful. Here’s how this looks: I can’t pay my mortgage but I can buy and eat an entire bag of BBQ chips. I can’t make my husband treat me with respect but I can bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies and eat them all. No one can stop me. Overeating suspends the reality of your powerlessness in another area of your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • when I feel powerless in my life, eating all the food I want can make me feel powerful.
  • food is my greatest source of power when I can’t do what I want or get what I want.
  • the person who controls the food, is the one with the most power.
  • I forgive myself for using food as a source for power when I can’t do something in my life.
  • I forgive those who have taken ownership of my power.
  • I forgive myself for giving ownership of my power to food.
  • I give myself permission to let go of using food as a source for feeling power over other things I can’t control.
  • I give myself permission to eat everything I want, whenever I want without ever using it again as a source for power.

3) To store up for a future famine.

A famine is when there is no food and consequently, you starve. Your emotional eating may be a compulsive response to a famine experience in your past. It could be your family really didn’t have much food or the food was unreliable. Maybe you didn’t know when or if there would be another meal, so you would overeat to store up in case there was nothing to eat later. Storing up for a future famine isn’t just about famine of food. You could have experienced famine of love or attention or money. These famines could have still caused your starvation for love or attention or money. Constant, compulsive piling up of excess food in your body is your way of preventing the hurt of previous famine to ever happen again. By metaphorically “filling your barn”, you think you can prevent such starvation and hurt from ever happening again in your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • I have to store up with food so I am not caught in a famine again.
  • another famine is coming.
  • I’m going to experience more loss, so I must fill my barn to prevent feeling that loss ever again.
  • I can keep from feeling the loss by pouring my energy into filling my barn with tons of food.
  • I’ll never heal from the famine of food/love/attention/money in my past.
  • There isn’t enough for me.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively overeating just so I won’t be afraid of being without during another famine.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively hoarding food in case there is no food, love, attention or money in the future.
  • I give myself permission to let go of my loss and to accept there is enough for me.
  • I give myself permission to accept there is enough love, enough attention, enough food, enough money for me.
EPTworks™ Lifeworks Holistic Healing Escape is a luxurious 3-day retreat where you can heal the emotional issues related to excess weight, body image, self love, overeating and much more.
The next one is scheduled to take place November 6-8, 2013 in Destin, Florida.
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10 Natural Cures For Sick Kids

October 16, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition by Annette

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Chronic coughs, runny noses, sore throats, headaches, tummy aches–with five kids, I’ve seen it all.  My youngest is now a senior in high school and I am proud to say, we never had to treat our sick kids with antibiotics or medical intervention.  We have developed a good reputation in our community, providing natural health care to children. While vitamin C and plenty of water are always recommended for infections, I’m giving you 10 more amazing natural cures you can use to help your sick kids.

1)  Apple cider vinegar

This is an amazing cure for strep throat, one of the most common kid sicknesses.  D.C. Jarvis, M.D. documented his research using apple cider vinegar to heal strep throat and other health problems in his book Folk Medicine: a New England Almanac of natural health care from a noted Vermont country doctor.  The minute your child starts complaining of a sore throat, have him drink 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water every couple of hours.  If he can gargle and swallow, it will minimize the pain of the sore throat.  Dr. Jarvis claimed to be able to change a positive strep culture to negative in 24 hours or less using apple cider vinegar.

2)  Colloidal silver

You can pick this up at any health food store.  It is a tasteless liquid that can be used to prevent sickness as well as helping the body heal from sickness.  It is safe for babies and small children.  It can be used directly in the ear with a drop of olive oil for ear infections.  It is very effective in resolving the pain, infection and inflammation of pink eye or any eye problem.  It is safe and soothing to drop into the eye to aid with infections.  Skin infections also respond very well with colloidal silver.

3)  Eliminate dairy

This won’t cost you anything.  Just in case you didn’t know, kids with chronic ear/nose/throat infections are usually sensitive to dairy.  I’ve seen so many chronically sick kids get well and stay well by simply eliminating all dairy.  You can substitute milk these days with almond milk, coconut milk, or rice milk.

4)  Probiotics

These are the good little bacterial army of scavengers that love to eat all the “dead stuff” your immune system went after. That dead stuff becomes excess mucous for your body to unload.  You can find probiotics at any store that carries supplements; even your local Walgreens.  This supplement will clean up the “mess” of getting over an infection and help the colon stay healthy, too.

5)  Gently rub temples for 30-60 seconds

A fever is the bodies way of killing the bacterial or viral invaders. A fever is your child’s immune system doing it’s job to protect your child.  Dr. Robert Mendelsohn, acclaimed pediatrician and author gives solid advice on when it is advisable to lower a child’s fever.  We learned that you can give your child a 15-20 minute break from a fever by gently rubbing her temples for 30-60 seconds.  This gives the child a short break from the fever without interfering with her immune systems natural defense mechanism.

6)  Peppermint oil

With colds and fever often come headaches.  Use peppermint oil on the temples, forehead, under the nose and a little on the tongue to alleviate the pain of headaches. (be careful to avoid getting it in the eyes as it will sting)  You can also rub peppermint oil on the tummy for tummy aches.

7)  Fenugreek tea

Fenugreek tea is an amazing helper when it comes to excess mucous from sinus, throat and lung infections.  You can buy it in tincture form or tea bag form.  Drink three cups of fenugreek tea per day to relieve the sinus and lymphatic congestion.

8)  Kali Sulph 6x

This is a micro-nutrient known as a cell salt.  Kali sulph is fantastic for eliminating that last bit of croupie cough your child carries around.  It is also good to give for the basic common cold. Take 3-6 three times per day until symptoms are gone.  These are tiny supplements that are dissolved under the tongue.

9)  Kali Phos 6x

Another cell salt, Kali phos is an ancient remedy for those who feel as though they are “falling apart”.  Children who are fretful with chronic headaches or stomach aches can usually benefit from Kali Phos.  It provides micro nutrition to the nervous system to support it in helping the child feel stronger and more able to cope with the stress of life.  A child can take 6 three times a day and as needed for nervousness that causes anxiety and stomach upset.

10) Get regular spinal adjustments

Chiropractic care is about maintaining your structure to positively influence your function.  It’s not just about back pain, but an overall holistic approach to body health.  When your body structure is aligned, your body function is improved.  Chronically sick kids who get adjusted regularly, always get well faster and stay well longer.

If you know some dynamite natural health cures for kids; share them below in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!

How an Ice Pack Can Save Your Life From A Heart Attack

September 11, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness, Health by Annette

German New Medicine, founded by Dr. Ryke Hamer, explains the emotional, psychological and biological connections of cancer and all chronic diseases. (new medicine.ca)

Dr. Joseph Mercola posted an amazing youtube video called German New Medicine Explains Heart Attacks.  In this video, you can learn how territorial conflicts are a common denominator in almost all heart attacks.

Dr. Hamer explains that an emotional conflict arises in persons life, such as a territorial conflict.  As the conflict arises, the biology of the body changes to meet the conflict.  Once the conflict is resolved; the biology of the body returns to it’s normal state of being.

In a territorial conflict, the biology of the heart enlarges in anticipation of the fight for territory.  A CEO may be in this state ongoing as he fights for the expanding territory of the company.  Once he retires and there is no longer a fight to engage in; the biology of the heart returning to normal too rapidly can be the cause of a heart attack.

To eliminate the chest pain or heart symptoms of this heart returning to normal biology;  Dr. Hamer suggests placing an icepack over the heart target area of the brain.  This area is located just above the right ear on the skull.

So when you know of someone who is having chest pain or tightness or an actual heart attack; immediately place an icepack over their right ear as you go for medical care.  You will never hurt someone by doing this and you just may save someone’s life.

Get Your Super Healing Machine!

September 4, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health by Annette

In China there are master healers known as chi gong masters.  These are healers who have mastered an ancient art of hands on healing that is well known and respected in in the Asian world. The energy they master and emit from their hands is called “chi”.  Way back in the 80’s, someone got the idea to see if the “chi energy” these master healers emitted from their hands could be measured and then copied in a machine that anyone could use.  Chi Gong masters were brought into a sound studio one at a time. Microphones were placed over the palms of the healer’s hands while he was instructed to emit “chi energy”.  What the researchers found was that the frequency of sound of the “chi energy” was measurable.  It was chaotic, bouncing up and down in an unpredictable rhythm but staying within a particular hertz range.

The first Chi Gong machine was also called a “chaos machine”.  Chi Gong masters reported their ability to emit “chi energy” more consistently and for longer periods of time was enhanced when they used the machine on themselves during healing sessions.

There has been tons of healing success and documented scientific research using this ingenious subtle energy generator. Over the years, there has been continued improvements in the technology and clinical applications. This machine is now known as the Infratonic 9.  You can find detailed research at www.soundvitality.com

Infratonic therapy helps:

  • Dissolve cellular trauma (emotional and physical)
  • Relieve pain
  • Relieve subluxation
  • Facilitates deep massage
  • Enhances local circulation
  • Increases energy level
  • Dramatically reduce inflammation
  • Increase production of hyaluronic acid
  • Speed muscle cell healing

Infratonic placement for specific emotions:

  • Rage: lower right abdomen
  • Anger:  Liver (front or back)
  • Grief:  lower left abdomen
  • Betrayal:  spleen and pancreas
  • Survival/fear/trauma:  coccyx
  • Fear:  sacrum
  • Depression: crown of head
  • Emotional clenching:  solar plexus
  • Anxiety:  heart

The Fear Protocol:  use 10 minutes over sacrum followed by 20 minutes over heart (2 weeks)

The Anger/Grief Protocol:  Apply to abdominal discomfort/tightness for 10 minutes then use 10 minutes over sacrum and then use 10 minutes over heart

The Pelvic Floor Rage Protocol:  Apply to lower right abdomen just outside pubic bone for 10 minutes, then sacrum for 10 minutes, then heart for 20 minutes. (2 weeks)  relieves chronic prostate infections, cystitis, cramps, bladder infections.

The Mind Congestion Protocol:  Apply to solar plexus 10 minutes followed by 10 minutes on sacrum then 20 minutes on heart.

I’d love to hear ways you have used the Infratonic 9 to enhance healing.  Please leave your comments.

If you don’t have one of these awesome healing devices, you can buy it from  The Cargioli Center with a $100 discount for $625.  Just call our office to order. 317-585-9410

 

 

Who Gets Cancer?

July 3, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health by Annette

Here is some very compelling research describing the personality traits that increase one’s chances for developing cancer.

If you or someone you love have a high number of these traits, you can decrease your chance for developing cancer with EPTworks™ and emotional healing.  By releasing emotional and physical trauma and changing your beliefs, you can increase your assertiveness and ownership of your power to be honest and open about your needs and the practical fulfillment of those needs without the fear or avoidance of conflict.

The most important fact you need to know about cancer: Of all the people who are diagnosed with cancer; the majority survive.

Cancer Personality

The presence of traumas was important in assessing the risk of cancer and the possibility of a poor prognosis.  In his study of 250 patients diagnosed with malignancy, LeShan (1956) noted that a childhood trauma was present in 62% of the cancer patients, and in only 10% of the control group.  He concluded that an early emotional trauma increased the risk of cancer later in life. Such trauma would supposedly lead to an increase in tension towards one or both parents.  Later, LeShan included the presence of a childhood trauma as one of the psychological indicators for predicting cancer development.

Later, LeShan (1977) reconfirmed his initial findings.  He studied the life histories of 500 patients.  One of the typical patterns identified was childhood trauma.  Such trauma included feelings of isolation, neglect, difficult, dangerous or intense interpersonal relationships, parental deprivation and coldness.  He noticed that 76% of the cancer patients showed such patterns in their past, and had also recently experienced an emotional loss.  Traumatic patterns were relived through the recent emotional loss, which influenced cancer growth.

A 1946 Johns Hopkins University study: “Our results appear to agree with findings that cancer patients tend to deny and repress conflictual impulses and emotions to a higher degree than do other people.”

Certain personality features increase the risk of cancer because they are more likely to generate physiological stress.

  • Repression, the inability to say “no”, and a lack of awareness of one’s anger make it much more likely that a person will find herself in situations where her emotions are unexpressed, her needs are ignored and her gentleness exploited.
  • Extremely co-operative
  • Patient
  • Passive
  • Lacking assertiveness
  • Accepting
  • Represses negative emotions especially anger while struggling to maintain a strong, happy façade—denial of negative emotions.
  • The external appearance of a nice or good person
  • A suppression of reactions that may offend others
  • Avoidance of conflict
  • Chronically hopeless and helpless, even though it is not consciously recognized, in the sense that the person basically believes that it is useless to express one’s needs: the needs will not or cannot be met by the environment.

If you know someone who could benefit from this information, please share it.

Take a minute to share how you may have changed these traits in your lifetime and how it has influenced your health and healing.

 

Sugar Regulation

June 12, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition by Annette

If you have any of the following problems, you can benefit from a sugar regulation diet:

  • anxiety
  • depression
  • chronic mental instability
  • mental fragility
  • mental fogginess
  • OCD
  • mental and physical fatigue
  • chronic weight gain
  • inability to lose weight and keep it off
  • chronic anger/irritability

You can improve your condition in as little as 30 days with very little cost and change in your lifestyle.

1) Eliminate wheat—all wheat, that includes pasta, bread, cereals, crackers, cookies. Wheat is notorious for causing sugar dysregulation, so no wheat for you.

2) Eat 60-75 grams of useable protein per day.  If your current protein resources were useable, you wouldn’t have this sugar regulation problem.  You must put this useable protein in your breakfast and every snack. If you have a meal with very little protein, you may want to add 10-20 grams of useable protein.  I recommend: Sun Warrior raw fermented brown rice protein powder.  You can get it on Amazon.  Start your day with two scoops=32 grams. You can use this for snacks or supplemental meal protein as well.  Just use a shaker cup, add water and protein, shake and drink.  If you are tolerant of dairy, greek yogurt makes a great snack or dessert with 14 grams of useable protein.  On the go, you can take Think Thin bars which provide 20 grams of useable protein, or use a half one as a dessert to supplement your meal.

3) Eat three smaller meals and two protein snacks each day.  Breakfast–midmorning snack–Lunch–midafternoon snack–Dinner.  Set your iPhone alarm to remind you to eat your protein snacks.

4) Don’t overeat.  You know that last bite that leaves you feeling, “I shouldn’t have eaten that last bite”.  Stop eating before you eat the bite that puts you over your limit of feeling good.  Overeating will also drive you into sugar dysregulation.  Once it goes out of balance, it can take 12-24 hours to get it into a healthy balance again.  You will get the hang of it sooner than you think. (signs of dysregulation: sleepy, fatigued, lost motivation, moody, foggy thinking, irritable, craving sugar, anxiety, depression. . .you get the picture)

5) Discipline.  Yes, I said that ugly little word that no one really wants to hear.  Listen, discipline is one side of a coin, and the other side is freedom. When the freedom you give yourself lacks discipline, you risk losing the freedom you want the most; the freedom to feel good, live longer, be happy and think more clearly. You have to give up ways that aren’t working for you.  Discipline yourself with these simple new habits and expand your awareness of the freedom to be healthier, happier and more fulfilled.  It doesn’t take a prescription,wonder supplement or a ton of money; just your decision to live your life in a better way.

*a supplement that can support you while you are developing this new habit is “inositol powder”.  It tastes like sugar.  Eat 1 tsp three times a day while you are learning to balance your body’s sugar regulation.  Some folks find it helpful to continue taking a half dose while others continue with higher doses.  Your diet management is the key to not needing this supplement support.

Cure ADD/ADHD

June 6, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health, Nutrition by Annette

If you knew of a cure for ADD and ADHD that could really change your child for good, would you be interested? I would like to share three simple, inexpensive changes you can make to eliminate or greatly reduce the symptoms of ADD and ADHD.

1)  Eliminate all wheat, cow dairy, and refined sugar from your child’s diet. 

This is easier than ever with so many new grocery stores offering alternatives.  You can replace wheat products with rice products. Linda C’s Kitchen Table and  Elana’s Pantry offers up all manner of wheat and sugar free goodies you can bake to satisfy those yearnings for homemade treats.  Try her brownies or chocolate chip scones; simple to make and amazingly delicious.  Cow dairy can be replaced with almond milk, coconut milk or flax seed milk.  Butter is acceptable.  Goat and sheep cheese can be found in many varieties.  You can use agave syrup, maple syrup or coconut sugar for a sugar alternative. You can do this and it does make a difference.

2)  Use Amber glasses 2-3 hours before bedtime to minimize your child’s exposure to blue light.

We live in a culture with constant noise and unnatural light.  The environmental chaos is bound to have an effect on developing children.  (buy amber glasses here: lowbluelights.com)

Blue-blocking Glasses To Improve Sleep And ADHD Symptoms

ScienceDaily. Retrieved May 9, 2011:

Scientists at John Carroll University, working in its Lighting Innovations Institute, have developed an affordable accessory that appears to reduce the symptoms of ADHD. Their discovery also has also been shown to improve sleep patterns among people who have difficulty falling asleep. The John Carroll researchers have created glasses designed to block blue light, therefore altering a person’s circadian rhythm, which leads to improvement in ADHD symptoms and sleep disorders.

3)  Change a few things in your child’s environment. 

– Fill the child’s environment with your unsolicited, loving, positive, supportive attention.  

In his book, Scattered, Gabor Mate says, “Show me a child who can’t pay attention and I will show you a very sad child.”  He says that environmental factors play a huge part in the development of a child and that children who don’t pay attention have trained themselves to “look away” to avoid hurt or abandonment.  He makes a strong case for the attention deficit child needing “attention” and not getting it and so giving up to look away so as not to feel the loss.  In essence, the attention the ADD/ADHD child is lacking is from the parent.  Your ADD/ADHD child needs your positive loving attention in a consistent manner.  Your child is not deficit in brain chemicals; he is deficit in positive loving attention.  By filling this need in the child, he is more trusting of paying attention.  (Here’s where EPTworks can help the child and the family by releasing the sadness the child is looking away from and helping the family love each other more fully.)

-Enjoy a family meal together at home at the same time each day.

Everyone must sit together and enjoy the meal with healthy family conversation. No tv or devices allowed.  Your child’s brain development is dependent on structure.  Creating one dependable structure in your family routine such as a meal together at the same time each day, will help your child get the positive attention from you he needs and help his brain develop structure of paying attention.

 

 

The Place Where Bad Habit Goes FOREVER and Good Habit Stays FOREVER by Sherry Hamilton

March 15, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness, Health, Nutrition by Annette

 

by Jenn Ocken Photography

This week I had the pleasure, yes pleasure, to sit through a six hour lecture presented by Bill M. Kelley, Ph.D., from Dartmouth College.  I’ll spare you his titles, but the lecture was about the brain and habits.  How habits are formed, and why changing bad habits into good habits is hard for most people and near impossible for some people.  It really does require more than willpower, and knowing what is happening inside your gray matter can help ease the process.

Dr. Kelley showed that the brain is really good at short-cutting information to speed up your process to get something done.  We were given the simple task to see a word and tell what color the word was printed in.  The first word was “red” and it was printed in red.  Oh, so easy!  All 300 of us proclaimed “red.”  Then we had the word “blue” in blue.  We see the word and tell the color: “blue.”  Then with green we are forming a habit of seeing the word and telling its color.  After a couple of reds, blues and greens Dr. Kelley flashes a slide that is the word “green” printed in the color blue.  One third of the room proclaimed “green” the other two thirds were choking back the word and searching for the correct answer of “blue.”  That pause and need to stop and think about what I’m seeing and what information I’m supposed to be giving was a quick way to show that there is hesitation when something changes and upsets your habit.  The shortcut your brain set up for you didn’t work on every solution, and you paused to figure out your conflict and eventually come up with the solution.    When you want to change that habit, there is a pause. 

This pause is where you consciously have to stop and choose your action for the new outcome you are wanting. 

  1. Your Mind-Body is Smart and Efficient

Your mind-body sets up a habit and speeds up the processing like driving a race car on a super highway.  The more you do the same action, the more efficient you get at doing it.  You think you are driving that race car, but there is a chemical called dopamine who you gave the car keys to.  Dopamine is driving you to “do it again” and you are just along for the ride.  Sometimes you are blindfolded and gagged to represent your feeling of helplessness when you make choices and give into your bad or self-destructive habits.

  1. Your Mind-Body is Super-Duper Efficient

Not only does your mind-body set up your habits on familiar super highways, but your mind-body also keeps track of all the details leading up to your action, and sets them up as habits on super highways in your mind-body too!

  1. Key to Changing Out a Bad Habit for a Good Habit Requires Conscious Effort– Pause, Expend New Effort

Establishing a life-long good habit requires getting your body to agree it is a habit and to build for you a super highway bigger and better than the super highway you have up in your gray matter for your bad habit.  Really that’s all there is to it!  Being aware of what you are doing here is one of the keys to building a successful good habit super highway in your brain and body system.

  1. Make Your Choice More Attractive for Getting Your Greatest Reward:  Love

In EPTworks, making the good habit super highway bigger and better so the mind-body will choose it is based on attaching the positive emotional charge of true love to the new good habit. The Biblical truth that love is the greatest single power source we have access to is mankind’s greatest reward.  When my new good habit is rewarded with the best emotions and aspects of true love, then I will be drawn to choose that habit more often than my self-destructive habit. 

  1. EPTworks Therapy Makes the Bad Habit Super Highway Less Attractive Using:  Forgiveness

            Forgiving myself for believing what isn’t true about this bad habit makes it less attractive to me.

In letting go of a bad habit, there are usually reasons why we want to keep doing it.  EPTworks seeks out the long held beliefs that are giving value to your bad habit and making you want to “do it again”.  Using specific forgiveness for beliefs that aren’t true will neutralize the beliefs and allow the mind to resolve each conflict attached to the bad habit.  Using this therapy makes the bad habit super highway look even less attractive and easier to switch over to the new good habit super highway we are building bigger and better.

By guest blogger: Sherry Hamilton

 

 

Riding On the Gerbil Wheel of Destructive Habits by Sherry Hamilton

March 13, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Emotional Healing Training, Health, Nutrition by Annette

 

by Jenn Ocken Photography

(cue sound effects:  eee…ee..eee…ee… a squeaky wheel)

I Can’t Help It!!!  I Have To Do That.  I Did It Again!  I Can’t Live Without That.

  1. Consciously admit what is bad for you or bad for your future: Monthly binge on chocolate chip cookies to point of illness.
  2. Decide to take a different action for a better future: Stop binging on cookies.  Do something else with this time.
  3. Binge on chocolate chip cookies. Feel like a failure for not maintaining decision to not binge on chocolate chip cookies.
  4. Make a new plan with more specific aversion techniques so as to succeed next month: Binge on cookies; feel like a helpless failure and guilty for not following through with plan.
  5. Give up on better future: Give into binging.  Live with feeling of failure. Binge on cookies.  Feeling powerless.  No guilt because I’ve decided: I can’t help it.

About 25 years ago, I realized I had a self-destructive habit of binging on chocolate chip cookies once a month.  I recognized it was self-destructive because I would bake cookies and eat more than a dozen until I was sick and in pain.  I followed the above plan month after month for more than a decade with continued frustration.  I call it a ‘gerbil wheel’ because I went around and around with my inner conflict and my outer display for this nagging monthly dependence on chocolate chip cookies.

My sister, Dr. Annette Cargioli, DC, helped me make the first step in breaking this awful cycle of dependence while she was pioneering EPTworks.  After one 45 minute session, I didn’t binge or have the need to binge for 10 months!  It was freeing and odd at the same time.  I was waiting for the powerless need to drive me to the binge cycle and it didn’t come.  Then after 10 months it did come back.  I called her, and told her the magic stopped and I had a binge.  She explained there are triggers and aspects of this cycle.  The great news was we had effectively stopped the cycle once so we could probably keep interrupting the behavior with continued work.  She was right.  It was a process of a few more years of work with paying attention to what set me off or triggered me into the binge behavior.  I can say that I’m binge-free now, and much happier too. 

I say Annette saved my life because the mental and physical toll of the behavior was making my future good health and peace unattainable.

 

by Jenn Ocken Photography

by Guest Blogger: Sherry Hamilton