Get What You Want Now

February 27, 2014 in Business

When my kids were much younger, they would talk about how they wanted to go to visit Disney World.  I had them close their eyes and imagine packing for our trip, going to the airport, getting bumped up to first class, getting all the cookies and drinks they want on the plane, seeing Mickey greet them. You get the idea.  Their faces would relax and light up as they imagined this amazing trip.  I asked them how it feels.  They would sigh and smile and assure me it was an amazing feeling.  It’s that “feeling” of getting what we want as though we already have it that keeps our attention focused on what we want.  Those good “feelings” are actually neural representations in our brain.  To get what you want now, you must create positive neural representations that are the signals that you already have what you want.  You have to imagine it with good feelings.

Create new neural representations to remind you of what you want now. This is where you are driving to. What do you see, hear, and feel when you get where you are going and get what you want now?

This is to remind you to keep your attention on where you are going and how you will look, how good you will feel and what you will hear when you get there.

Remember, you have a destination in mind for your life and business.  You have to “drive”, take action to get from where you are to where you are going.  You can no longer allow the current or past trauma to take all of your attention. Failure in a previous life situation can no longer keep you stranded on the side of the road staring and feeling afraid and helpless.  Hurt or humiliation from childhood can no longer take away your license to drive where you have chosen to go.

God has given you the keys to drive, to choose what you want to do with your life, to choose where you put your attention.  It is time to use that power God has given to you to decide exactly where you are going and then to put your attention on why you are going there, what you will do there and how you will feel there.

Show yourself the same compassion God has shown you when you feel stuck staring at the wreck on the side of the road.  Give the wreck a blessing and get back in the car and drive because you don’t have to stay here anymore.  You get to go to a new place that offers you more pleasure and life fulfillment and freedom.  It is in going from here to there; you get to experience more of the power of God’s love for you and that is really what you want right now.

Are you ready for change!

February 21, 2014 in Blog, Emotional Healing Training, Forgiveness

Sometimes you are certain you are ready for a change in your life.  It could be that you want to lose weight, start a new business, or change a relationship.  You find yourself waking up every day with the same old life.  You try some things but it never seems to work for you like it works for those who seem to be very successful. Here’s a couple tips for getting out of this stuck pattern and opening up to new actions that seriously move you forward into your dream reality.

Get seriously committed to your dream.

Get Leverage on what you really want to change.  Ask yourself if you really believe the way it is can change.  Are you fully committed to this new change?  Do you believe you can change it and change is possible and good?  Do you have to wait until you are deathly ill, before you can fully commit to better health habits?  Do you have to be bankrupt, before you can commit to a new business?  You get the idea.  Why is it imperative that your life change?

Replace negative behaviors that meet your human needs with positive behaviors.

Many of the patterns of behavior people can’t let go of, are rooted in meeting your most basic human needs. Tony Robbins defines these human needs as follows:

  1. The need for certainty:  to know that nothing bad will happen, everything will be okay. I won’t get hurt.
  2. The need for uncertainty: to have variety in my life so I won’t be bored. Excitement!
  3. The need for significance: to know I am important and valued, to know I matter.
  4. The need for connection: to know I am loved and connected to others or God in love. I am part of a family or community.

Observe what you do over and over that keeps you from getting what you really want.  For example, you may chronically eat too much or too much of the wrong foods.  In your family, it may have been expected to eat these foods to be part of the family.  Use EPTworks to identify and release the unhealthy ways you meet your human needs.  Give yourself permission to meet your human needs in healthier, more valuable ways that are good for you, good for your family and good for the world.

WARNING! Two Things That Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life (Part 2)

January 3, 2014 in Business

So you know exactly what you want.

You have mapped out your dream life full of all the experiences you still haven’t enjoyed fully. Well you may be surprised to learn there are only two primary things that can stop you from creating your dream life. In my previous blog, I talked about the first thing. If you missed that one, go back and check it out. The second thing is so normal for you that it has become a part of your life. You just haven’t realized how deadly it is to your reaching the fulfillment of your dreams.

Warning! One More Thing That Will Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life

What makes you “CRAZY” in your closest relationships: There are relationships you are in right now that have the power to distract you by making you “crazy”. It may be your mother or your husband or a friend. Think about what really makes you crazy within the closest relationships in your life. By crazy, I mean situations that really get you churning emotionally. They get you churning so much that you stop focusing on your dream. Once your emotional churning starts, you get caught up in self doubt, disappointment, anger and depression. In that moment you give up your dream for these lower frequency feelings. Then you wonder why your dream is not manifesting. To the degree that you let your relationships churn this kind of “crazy” in your life, you will effectively stop the manifestation of your dream life. You have to be aware when you are drifting into “crazy-land” and gently remind yourself to re-focus on your dreams. Keeping your attention on where you are going and how you will feel when you get there is a key component to manifesting your dream life. Do some EPTworks™ to help you determine exactly what your “crazy” is and release it with forgiveness.

  • I forgive myself for believing I have to go “crazy” when “this” happens in my life.
  • I forgive myself for giving up on my dream when “this” happens in my life
  • I forgive myself for letting this situation stop me from focusing on my dream life.
  • I forgive myself for giving up my dreams because of this situation.
  • I forgive my family for feeling uncomfortable with my dreams.
  • I forgive myself for believing I will lose love if I pursue my dreams
  • I give myself permission to let go of the “crazy” and to keep focusing on my dreams.
  • Without this pattern, I am free to be aware of the “crazy” as a sign that I am closer than ever to achieving my dreams and this “crazy” can’t stop me any more.

Become aware of this pattern of distraction in your life and choose to release it with forgiveness and acceptance.

Get ready to see your dreams come true!

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WARNING! Two Things That Stop You From Manifesting Your Dream Life (Part 1)

January 3, 2014 in Business

So, you know exactly what you want.

You have mapped out your dream life full of all the experiences you still haven’t enjoyed fully. You may even have a fancy vision board with pictures of all the cool stuff you’ve decided to manifest in your life. This is simple, right? All you have to do is keep your focus on your dream long enough and it will eventually appear.

The reality is you have a drawer full of dreams that you have never manifested and it’s been too long. It’s time to take another look at where you are stuck and exactly what is keeping you from driving to your dream destination in life.

Warning! Here’s the first thing that will stop you from manifesting your dream life:

Fear of rejection or failure:

When someone fails to respond favorably to you, it feels terrible to you. This fear probably started when you were little. Someone you love responded to your request or attention with anger or scorn. It was an awful experience for you and you never want to feel that way again. You want only experiences that keep you from feeling the little kid in you that’s still afraid “I’m not good enough.” In other words, you can only handle the experiences where people are turning flips for you and loving everything you do. You just can’t handle the people who don’t understand you and what you do or flat out don’t like you or what you have to give. You are so afraid of this experience that you unconsciously push people or clients away so you don’t have to go through this terrible experience over and over and over again. By pushing people away, you prevent the manifestation of great love relationships. By pushing clients away, you prevent the manifestation of your dream business. Do some EPTworks™ to discover where the root of this fear of rejection exists and forgive.

  • I forgive myself for believing I just can’t handle the terrible experience of a someone not liking me.
  • I forgive myself for believing I can only feel good with clients who adore me and tell me how great I am.
  • I forgive myself for believing I have to push clients away from me so I can avoid this awful experience of rejection.
  • I forgive my parent for rejecting me.
  • I forgive myself for avoiding love relationships because I can’t handle rejection.
  • I forgive myself for letting my fear of the memory of an awful experience attract terrible life partners.
  • I forgive myself for using my client relationships as a way to take away my fear that I’m still not good enough.
  • I give myself permission to have a mindset to “go to give” from the well of wholeness that exists within me that I also see existing in each of my clients whether they reject me or love me.
  • I forgive myself for letting this deep fear that I’m still not good enough cause me to push people away so I won’t get hurt.
  • I forgive myself for letting this deep fear of this terrible experience (rejection) cause me to give up my power to go for my dream.

In next weeks blog, I will tell you what the second thing is that will stop you from manifesting your dream life.

10 Reasons an Abuser Stays That Way

January 3, 2014 in Abuse

1) The intrinsic satisfaction of power and control.

The feeling that he rules, is where pleasure lies.

2) Getting his way, especially when it matters to him the most.

Happiness in a relationship depends greatly on your ability to get your needs heard and taken seriously. If these decisions are taken over by an abusive or controlling partner, you experience disappointment after disappointment, the constant sacrificing of your needs.

3) Someone to take his problems out on.

He considers himself entitled to use his partner as a kind of human garbage dump where he can litter the ordinary pains and frustrations that life brings us.

4) Free labor from her: leisure and freedom for him.

Studies have shown that a majority of women feel that their male partners don’t contribute fairly to household responsibilities. However, a woman whose partner is not abusive at least has the option to put her foot down about her workload and insist that the man pick up the slack. With an abusive man, however, if you put your foot down he either ignores you or makes you pay.

5) Being the center of attention, with priority given to his needs.

When a woman’s partner chronically mistreats her, what fills up her thoughts? Him, of course. She ponders how to soothe him so that he won’t explode, how to improve herself in his eyes, how she might delicately raise a touchy issue with him. The entire family strives to enhance his good moods and fix his bad ones, in hope he won’t start tearing pieces out of anyone. Consistently at the center of attention and getting his own way, the abuser can ensure that his emotional needs get met on his terms–a luxury he is loath to part with.

6) Financial control.

7) Ensuring that his career, education or other goals are prioritized.

Closely interwoven with financial control is the question of whose personal goals receive priority. Her own goals may also advance at times, but only as long as they don’t interfere with his.

8) Public status of partner and/or father without sacrifices.

With his strong people-pleasing skills and his lively energy when under the public gaze, he soaks up the smiles and appreciation he receives from relatives, neighbors, and people in the street who are unaware of his behavior in private.

9) The approval of his friends and relatives.

An abuser other chooses friends who are supportive of abusive attitudes. On top of that, he may come from an abusive family; in fact, his father or stepfather may have been his key role model for how to treat a female partner. If these are his social surroundings, he gets strokes for knowing how to control his partner, for “putting her in her place” from time to time and for ridiculing her complaints about him. For this man to renounce abuse, he would have to give up his cheerleading squad as well.

10) Double standards.

An abusive man subtly or overtly imposes a system in which he is exempt from the rules and standards that he applies to you. He may allow himself to have occasional affairs, “because men have their needs,” but if you so much as gaze at another man, you’re a whore. He may scream in arguments, but if you raise your voice, you’re “hysterical.” He may pick up one of your children by the ear, but if you grab your son and put him in time out for punching you in the leg, you’re a “child abuser.” He can leave his schedule open and flexible while you have to account for your time. He can point out your faults, while setting himself above criticism, so that he doesn’t have to deal with your complaints or be confronted with the effects of his selfish and destructive actions. The abusive man has the privilege of living by a special set of criteria that were designed just for him.*

You can learn more about how to identify and heal those in abusive relationships at Progressive Concepts.

*With respect and much gratitude, most of this information is taken from the book Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

 

8 Clear Signs Of An Abuser That Isn’t Changing

January 3, 2014 in Abuse, Health

  1. He says he can change only if you change too.
  2. He says he can change only if you “help” him change, by giving him emotional support, reassurance, and forgiveness, and by spending a lot of time with him. This often means that he wants you to abandon any plans you had to take a break from seeing him.
  3. He criticizes you for not realizing how much he has changed.
  4. He criticizes you for not trusting that his change will last.
  5. He criticizes you for considering him capable of behaving abusively even though he in fact has done so in the past (or has threatened to) as if you should know that he “would never do something like that” even though he has.
  6. He reminds you about the bad things he would have done in the past but isn’t doing anymore, which amounts to a subtle threat.
  7. He tells you that you are taking too long to make up your mind, that he can’t “wait forever” as a way to pressure you not to take the time you need to collect yourself and to assess how much he’s really willing to change.
  8. He says, “I’m changing. I’m changing,” but you don’t feel it.*

Learn more about how to identify and help those who are caught in abusive relationships at Progressive Concepts in Cincinnati. Click here for registration information.

*With respect and much gratitude, most of this information is taken from the book, Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Recognize the 10 Warning Signs of Abuse

January 3, 2014 in Abuse

The Abusive Mentality

  • “His attitude always seems to be: ‘You owe me.”
  • “I feel suffocated by him. He’s trying to run my life.”
  • “He manages to twist everything around so that it’s my fault.”
  • “Everyone seems to think he’s the greatest guy in the world. I wish they could see the side of him that I have to live with.”
  • “He says he loves me so much. So why does he treat me like this?”

Warning #1: He is controlling.

  1. “An argument should only last as long as my patience does. Once I’ve had enough, the discussion is over and it’s time for you to shut up.”
  2. “If the issue we’re struggling over is important to me, I should get what I want. If you don’t back off, you’re wronging me.”
  3. “I know what is best for you and for our relationship. If you continue disagreeing with me after I’ve made it clear which way is the right way, you’re acting stupid.”
  4. “If my control and authority seem to be slipping, I have the right to take steps to reestablish the rule of my will, including abuse if necessary.

Warning #2: He feels entitled.

Entitlement is the abuser’s belief that he has special status and that it provides him with exclusive rights and privileges that do not apply to his partner.

The abuser awards himself all kinds of “rights” including:

  • Physical caretaking: He expects his partner to do the majority of the house and kid stuff the way he likes it, while he constantly criticizes, complains or insults.
  • Emotional caretaking: He feels entitled that his needs are your responsibility and your needs are your responsibility.
  • Sexual caretaking: He considers it his partner’s duty to keep him sexually satisfied. He may not accept having his sexual advances rejected, yet turn her down whenever he feels like it.
  • Deference: His unstated rule that she is not to question his ideas.
  • Freedom from accountability: He believes he should be permitted to ignore the damage his behavior is causing and he may become retaliatory if anyone tries to get him to look at it.

Warning #3: He twists things into their opposites.

The abuser’s highly entitled perceptual system causes him to mentally reverse aggression and self-defense. The lens of entitlement the abuser holds over his eye stands everything on its head, like a reflection in a spoon. An abuser says, “You’re saying I should lie down and let her walk all over me” because he is told that intimidating his partner is unacceptable no matter how angry he is. He says, “So you’re telling us that my partner can do anything she wants to me, and I’m not allowed to lift a finger to defend myself” because his partner told him that she was sick of his friends trashing the house and that he should clean up his own mess.” When he was told there was no excuse to call her a disgusting name, he says, “Your approach is that whatever she does is okay, because she’s a woman, but because I’m the man, there’s much stricter rules for me” with his double standards.

The abusive man has mother reason to exaggerate and ridicule his partner’s statements: He wants to avoid having to think seriously about what she is saying and struggle to digest it. He feels entitled to swat her down like a fly instead.

Warning #4: He disrespects his partner and considers himself superior to her.

He often has difficulty conceiving of her as a human being. This tendency in abusers is known as objectification or depersonalization. Most abusers verbally attack their partners in degrading, revolting ways. By the use of the most degrading word they can think of, abusers make their partners feel both debased and unsafe.

Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time. As his conscience adapts to lone level of cruelty–or violence–he builds to the next. By depersonalizing his partner, the abuser protects himself from the natural human emotions of guilt and empathy, so he can sleep at night with a clear conscience. He distances himself so far from her humanity that her feelings no longer count, or simply cease to exist.

Abuse and respect are opposites: You do not respect someone whom your abuse, and you do not abuse someone whom you respect.

Warning #5: He confuses love and abuse.

An abusive man often tries to convince his partner that his mistreatment of her is proof of how deeply he cares, but the reality is that abuse is the opposite of love. The more a man abuses, the more he is demonstrating that he cares only about himself. He may feel a powerful desire to receive your love and care taking, but he only wants to give love when it’s convenient.

When an abusive man feels the powerful stirring inside that other people call love, he is probably largely feeling:

  • The desire to have you devote your life to keeping him happy with no outside interference.
  • The desire to have sexual access.
  • The desire to impress others by having you be his partner.
  • The desire to possess and control you.

Genuine love means respecting the humanity of the other person, wanting what is best for him or her, and supporting the other person’s self-esteem and independence.

Warning #6: He is manipulative.

  • Changing his moods abruptly and frequently, so that you find it difficult to tell who he is or how he feels, keeping you constantly off balance. His feelings toward you are especially changeable.
  • Denying the obvious about what he is doing or feeling. He’ll speak to you with his voice trembling with anger, or he’ll blame a difficulty on you, or he’ll sulk for two hours and then deny it to your face. You know what he did–and so does he–but he refuses to admit it, which can drive you crazy with frustration. Then he may call you crazy for getting so upset by his denial.
  • Convincing you that he wants to do what’s best for you. This way the abuser can make his selfishness look like generosity.
  • Getting you to feel sorry for him, so that you will be reluctant to push forward with your complaints about what he does.
  • Getting you to blame yourself or other people for what he does.
  • Using confusion tactics in arguments, subtly or overtly changing the subject, insisting that you are thinking or feeling things that aren’t, twisting your words, and many other tactics that serve as glue to pour into your brain. You may leave arguments with him feeling like you are losing your mind.
  • Lying or misleading you about his actions, his desires, or his reasons for doing certain things, in order to guide you into doing what he wants you to do.
  • Getting you and the people you care about turned against each other by betraying confidences, being rude to your friends, telling people lies about what you supposedly said about them, charming your friends and telling them bad things about you, and many other divisive tactics.

When a woman gets shoved or slapped, she at least knows what her partner did to her. But after manipulative interaction she may have little idea what went wrong; she just knows that she feels terrible, or crazy, and that somehow it seems to be her own fault.

Warning #7: He strives to have a good public image.

Most abusive men put on a charming face for their communities, creating a sharp split between their public image and their private treatment of women and children. He may be:

  • Enraged at home, but calm and smiling outside.
  • Selfish and self-centered with you, but generous and supportive with others.
  • Domineering at home, but willing to negotiate and compromise outside.
  • Highly negative about females while on his own turf, but a vocal supporter of equality when anyone else is listening.
  • Assaultive toward his partner or children, but nonviolent and nonthreatening with everyone else.
  • Entitled at home, but critical of other men who disrespect or assault women.

Abusive men are drawn to power and control and part of how they get it is by looking good in public.

Warning #8: He feels justified.

Abusers externalize responsibility for their actions, believing that their partners make them behave in abusive ways. They defend their abusive actions.

Abusive men are masters of excuse making. In this respect they are like substance abusers, who believe that everyone and everything except them is responsible for their actions.

Most abusers do have a conscience about their behavior outside the family. They may be willing to be answerable for their actions at work, or at the club or on the street. At home, however, their sense of entitlement takes over.

The abusive man commonly believes he can blame his partner for anything that goes wrong, not just his abusiveness. Did he just suffer a disappointment? She caused it. Is he embarrassed by a mistake he made? She should have prevented it. Is one of the children in a difficult period? She’s a bad mother. Everything is someone else’s fault and that “someone else” is usually her.

Warning #9: Abusers deny and minimize their abuse.

Most abusive men admit to some abusive behavior–although they don’t see it as abusive, of course–but they acknowledge only a small portion of what they have actually done.

A woman can feel that she is losing her mind–or developing psychiatric symptoms–if the obvious realities of her life, including abuse, are denied repeatedly by her partner. The certainty and authority in his voice, with his eyes twisted up to show how baffled he is, leave her questioning herself. “Did that really happen? Maybe it didn’t. Maybe I do over react to innocent things.” The more serious the incidents he denies, the more her grip on reality can start to slip. And if outsiders start to notice her instability, the abuser can use their observations to persuade them that her revelations of abuse by him are fantasies.

Warning #10: Abusers are possessive.

The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to get worse as relationships get more serious. The more history and commitment that develop in the couple the more the abuser comes to think of his partner as a prized object. Possessiveness is at the core of the abuser’s mind-set, the spring from which all the other streams spout; on some level he feels that he owns you and therefore has the right to treat you as he sees fit.*

EPTworks™ can help those in abusive relationships by helping them regain their God-given power.

When a human being is denied the right to have needs or to express their needs in a relationship; physical and emotional sickness is the result. Most people who seek help with EPTworks™ come because of physical or emotional sickness. Understanding and knowing the patterns of abuse: Oppression and victimization will help you to realize when that pattern is part of the picture so that you can be a better counsel to your client. Understanding these patterns will also help you with more specific forgiveness statements.

In Progressive Concepts, we discuss in detail how to identify and help those who are caught in an abusive relationship. Click here to learn more and register!

*With respect and gratitude, much of this information is taken from Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

3 Crazy Reasons You Over Eat

January 3, 2014 in Health, Nutrition

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1) To keep from feeling.

You may have experienced this consciously when you had a bad break up and you decide to eat a whole quart of rocky road ice cream. When you fill up on food, you can keep from feeling the anxiety or sadness or anger because all you feel is the uncomfortable feeling of too much food. Once it works for you; then you may unconsciously use excess food to avoid any uncomfortable feelings. After all, you can count on your favorite foods to make you feel good especially when relationships or life situations are making you feel bad. Overeating provides a full feeling that serves as a distraction from feelings of anxiety, abandonment, anger or low self esteem.

I forgive myself for believing that:

  • I have to use food and being full to take away the bad feelings in my life and body.
  • food can take away my hurt and sadness.
  • food is love.
  • I don’t feel anger, I get fat.
  • food is the only good feeling I have in my life.
  • I’d rather feel fat than feel hurt.

I forgive (name):

  • for hurting me.
  • for not loving me.
  • teaching me to use food to soothe my pain.
I give myself permission to let go of this unhealthy pattern with food and to be honest about what I really need.I give myself permission to stop using food to block unpleasant feelings and to ask God to please let me feel.

2) To feel powerful.

People who struggle with losing weight or maintaining their ideal weight, usually don’t think they feel very powerful around food. However, in our rich culture, food is one thing that you have almost unlimited access to. Practically anything you want to eat is within your reach and price range. So when you feel powerless to pay a bill or lose weight or control your child; eating all the food you want, any food you want, whenever you want can make you feel powerful. Here’s how this looks: I can’t pay my mortgage but I can buy and eat an entire bag of BBQ chips. I can’t make my husband treat me with respect but I can bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies and eat them all. No one can stop me. Overeating suspends the reality of your powerlessness in another area of your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • when I feel powerless in my life, eating all the food I want can make me feel powerful.
  • food is my greatest source of power when I can’t do what I want or get what I want.
  • the person who controls the food, is the one with the most power.
  • I forgive myself for using food as a source for power when I can’t do something in my life.
  • I forgive those who have taken ownership of my power.
  • I forgive myself for giving ownership of my power to food.
  • I give myself permission to let go of using food as a source for feeling power over other things I can’t control.
  • I give myself permission to eat everything I want, whenever I want without ever using it again as a source for power.

3) To store up for a future famine.

A famine is when there is no food and consequently, you starve. Your emotional eating may be a compulsive response to a famine experience in your past. It could be your family really didn’t have much food or the food was unreliable. Maybe you didn’t know when or if there would be another meal, so you would overeat to store up in case there was nothing to eat later. Storing up for a future famine isn’t just about famine of food. You could have experienced famine of love or attention or money. These famines could have still caused your starvation for love or attention or money. Constant, compulsive piling up of excess food in your body is your way of preventing the hurt of previous famine to ever happen again. By metaphorically “filling your barn”, you think you can prevent such starvation and hurt from ever happening again in your life.

I forgive myself for believing

  • I have to store up with food so I am not caught in a famine again.
  • another famine is coming.
  • I’m going to experience more loss, so I must fill my barn to prevent feeling that loss ever again.
  • I can keep from feeling the loss by pouring my energy into filling my barn with tons of food.
  • I’ll never heal from the famine of food/love/attention/money in my past.
  • There isn’t enough for me.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively overeating just so I won’t be afraid of being without during another famine.
  • I forgive myself for compulsively hoarding food in case there is no food, love, attention or money in the future.
  • I give myself permission to let go of my loss and to accept there is enough for me.
  • I give myself permission to accept there is enough love, enough attention, enough food, enough money for me.
EPTworks™ Lifeworks Holistic Healing Escape is a luxurious 3-day retreat where you can heal the emotional issues related to excess weight, body image, self love, overeating and much more.
The next one is scheduled to take place November 6-8, 2013 in Destin, Florida.
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10 Natural Cures For Sick Kids

October 16, 2013 in Blog, Emotional Healing, Health, Nutrition

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Chronic coughs, runny noses, sore throats, headaches, tummy aches–with five kids, I’ve seen it all.  My youngest is now a senior in high school and I am proud to say, we never had to treat our sick kids with antibiotics or medical intervention.  We have developed a good reputation in our community, providing natural health care to children. While vitamin C and plenty of water are always recommended for infections, I’m giving you 10 more amazing natural cures you can use to help your sick kids.

1)  Apple cider vinegar

This is an amazing cure for strep throat, one of the most common kid sicknesses.  D.C. Jarvis, M.D. documented his research using apple cider vinegar to heal strep throat and other health problems in his book Folk Medicine: a New England Almanac of natural health care from a noted Vermont country doctor.  The minute your child starts complaining of a sore throat, have him drink 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water every couple of hours.  If he can gargle and swallow, it will minimize the pain of the sore throat.  Dr. Jarvis claimed to be able to change a positive strep culture to negative in 24 hours or less using apple cider vinegar.

2)  Colloidal silver

You can pick this up at any health food store.  It is a tasteless liquid that can be used to prevent sickness as well as helping the body heal from sickness.  It is safe for babies and small children.  It can be used directly in the ear with a drop of olive oil for ear infections.  It is very effective in resolving the pain, infection and inflammation of pink eye or any eye problem.  It is safe and soothing to drop into the eye to aid with infections.  Skin infections also respond very well with colloidal silver.

3)  Eliminate dairy

This won’t cost you anything.  Just in case you didn’t know, kids with chronic ear/nose/throat infections are usually sensitive to dairy.  I’ve seen so many chronically sick kids get well and stay well by simply eliminating all dairy.  You can substitute milk these days with almond milk, coconut milk, or rice milk.

4)  Probiotics

These are the good little bacterial army of scavengers that love to eat all the “dead stuff” your immune system went after. That dead stuff becomes excess mucous for your body to unload.  You can find probiotics at any store that carries supplements; even your local Walgreens.  This supplement will clean up the “mess” of getting over an infection and help the colon stay healthy, too.

5)  Gently rub temples for 30-60 seconds

A fever is the bodies way of killing the bacterial or viral invaders. A fever is your child’s immune system doing it’s job to protect your child.  Dr. Robert Mendelsohn, acclaimed pediatrician and author gives solid advice on when it is advisable to lower a child’s fever.  We learned that you can give your child a 15-20 minute break from a fever by gently rubbing her temples for 30-60 seconds.  This gives the child a short break from the fever without interfering with her immune systems natural defense mechanism.

6)  Peppermint oil

With colds and fever often come headaches.  Use peppermint oil on the temples, forehead, under the nose and a little on the tongue to alleviate the pain of headaches. (be careful to avoid getting it in the eyes as it will sting)  You can also rub peppermint oil on the tummy for tummy aches.

7)  Fenugreek tea

Fenugreek tea is an amazing helper when it comes to excess mucous from sinus, throat and lung infections.  You can buy it in tincture form or tea bag form.  Drink three cups of fenugreek tea per day to relieve the sinus and lymphatic congestion.

8)  Kali Sulph 6x

This is a micro-nutrient known as a cell salt.  Kali sulph is fantastic for eliminating that last bit of croupie cough your child carries around.  It is also good to give for the basic common cold. Take 3-6 three times per day until symptoms are gone.  These are tiny supplements that are dissolved under the tongue.

9)  Kali Phos 6x

Another cell salt, Kali phos is an ancient remedy for those who feel as though they are “falling apart”.  Children who are fretful with chronic headaches or stomach aches can usually benefit from Kali Phos.  It provides micro nutrition to the nervous system to support it in helping the child feel stronger and more able to cope with the stress of life.  A child can take 6 three times a day and as needed for nervousness that causes anxiety and stomach upset.

10) Get regular spinal adjustments

Chiropractic care is about maintaining your structure to positively influence your function.  It’s not just about back pain, but an overall holistic approach to body health.  When your body structure is aligned, your body function is improved.  Chronically sick kids who get adjusted regularly, always get well faster and stay well longer.

If you know some dynamite natural health cures for kids; share them below in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!

The Secret to Being a Great Healer

October 9, 2013 in Forgiveness

Don’t you love learning faster, amazing ways of helping someone heal?  The more techniques, tricks and remedies you learn, the more you realize how infinite healing resources are. As you learn more and more, your healing bag becomes full and overflowing with incredible ideas, techniques and remedies to help people get well.

While great techniques can help people heal.  A great technique is not the secret to being a great healer.

The secret to being a great healer is your relationship with God.  Realize that you are not the source that creates healing.  Rather, it is your relationship with your divine source that allows you to  manifest healing at every level.

My favorite prayer to remind myself that God is the healer:

“God I can’t do it. Please do it for me.”

Use this prayer when you are healing others and you will experience even greater joy, peace and deeper understanding of God’s love for you and those you serve.

Cultivate a meaningful relationship with God, through meditation, silence, prayer, praise and worship. Create a discipline to do this on a daily basis as though this relationship matters to you. Drink daily from the well of your divine source.  It is in this divine relationship that you will know the secret to being a great healer.

Share your favorite ways of meeting with God in your life.  I’d love to hear.